I found myself parked in the driveway for a few moments after dropping the kids off, my forehead resting against the steering wheel as I fought back tears. I had lost my temper—again. Overwhelmed and ineffective, I thought to myself, “I’m not cut out for this. I’m messing them up. They deserve a mom who can do better.” The thought of them with someone else as their mother was heartbreaking, yet on days like today, parenting felt like an insurmountable task.
Many of us moms can be our own worst critics. We create lofty expectations for ourselves and often feel we fall short. We question our choices, doubt our skills, and sometimes hide away in our cars or the bathroom just to process our feelings of inadequacy without burdening our children.
This isn’t entirely our fault; societal pressures from parenting books and platforms like Pinterest bombard us with conflicting messages about what we should and shouldn’t do. It’s a lot to handle, and for many who didn’t have strong role models growing up, the result can be a persistent sense of failure.
But we must stop punishing ourselves. When I begin to feel overwhelmed, I remind myself that our children are meant to be with us for a reason. They are in our lives, and regardless of any beliefs about destiny, we can be the parents they need. Perfection isn’t a requirement for good parenting. If you’re reading this, you already care enough to want to improve—and that makes you enough.
Every parent faces challenges, whether it’s dealing with personal struggles or feeling stretched too thin by life circumstances. Yet, we must trust that we are sufficient for our kids.
In my 17 years of parenting, I’ve learned that children are remarkably forgiving when we acknowledge our mistakes and apologize sincerely. I’ve had to swallow my pride and say “I’m sorry” to my kids many times. Just today, after my moment in the car, I gathered my children and said, “I’m really sorry. I let my frustration get the better of me, and I shouldn’t have shouted.” My middle child responded swiftly, “That’s okay, Mom. We all lose it sometimes.” They hugged me and moved on, showcasing a level of understanding that often exceeds our own self-compassion.
Let’s take a cue from our kids and practice self-forgiveness. As long as we’re doing our best, we can trust that we are enough for them.
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In summary, remember that you are enough for your children just as you are. It’s essential to be gentle with yourself and recognize that love, effort, and honesty go a long way in parenting.