You may have finally made an important connection. Perhaps, like many others, you’ve realized that your outbursts—especially towards loved ones—aren’t a sudden onset of rage or an anger management issue. Instead, what you’re experiencing is fear manifesting as anger. As my therapist pointed out, intense anxiety generates stress, which can overflow into anger. I’ve found myself lashing out, whether it was yelling at my children for minor mistakes or even hitting walls out of frustration. I was constantly on edge and knew I needed assistance.
So, what steps should you take once you recognize that your anxiety might be expressing itself as anger—something that could disrupt your family dynamics?
Prioritize Your Safety
First and foremost, ensure that this realization doesn’t trigger harmful thoughts about self-harm. If it does, remember that it’s not unusual—you’re not alone in feeling this way. It’s crucial to seek help immediately. If you are in the U.S., you can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline anytime at 1-800-273-8255 (check for international numbers as well). Trained professionals can help you navigate feelings of self-hatred that can feel overwhelming. It’s essential to understand that these thoughts are driven by anxiety, not who you are. You don’t deserve to feel this way; you deserve support.
Seek Professional Help
There are three primary avenues to pursue when seeking help. You can reach out to your primary care physician, find a therapist, or consult a psychiatrist directly.
Your Primary Care Physician
Your family doctor may be your quickest route to assistance. They can evaluate you for anxiety and depression, possibly prescribing medication as a first step. While many Americans rely on psychiatric medication, it’s essential to note that therapy can be equally beneficial. The American Psychological Association suggests that treatment through psychotherapy can be just as effective, if not more so, than medication alone. It’s vital to address both the emotional and psychological aspects of your situation.
Finding a Therapist
To find a qualified therapist, consider asking friends or family for recommendations. Your primary care doctor can also provide referrals. If you have a good rapport with your physician, their suggested therapists are likely to be a good fit for you. Online resources, such as Psychology Today’s therapist finder, can also be helpful in locating professionals specializing in anxiety in your area.
Keep in mind that therapists focus on altering behavior and thought processes rather than prescribing medication. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and dialectical behavioral therapy are among the most effective techniques to help you manage negative thoughts and actions.
Finding a Psychiatrist
If you feel you may benefit from a combined approach of therapy and medication, seeking a psychiatrist could be the best path. This was the route I chose, and it has been incredibly beneficial. My psychiatrist provides both medication management and therapy, tailoring treatment to my unique needs, including addressing my ADHD along with anxiety.
To locate a psychiatrist, consider referrals from your primary care doctor or consult friends and family. Online directories can also provide leads, though they may not always include therapeutic styles or detailed information.
Navigating Payment Options
The Affordable Care Act ensures that mental health services are treated comparably to medical services by insurance companies. This means your insurance should cover behavioral health treatments, including therapy and counseling. However, finding a provider who accepts your insurance may take some effort. If you struggle to pay for care, look into Medicaid or community mental health clinics that offer sliding-scale fees based on income.
Additionally, be wary of alternative remedies that claim to cure anxiety or anger. While some might alleviate minor physical symptoms, they shouldn’t replace professional guidance. Investing in your mental health through appropriate channels is far more effective than unverified homeopathic products.
It’s important to remember that psychiatric medications are not inherently harmful. With proper management, they can significantly improve your quality of life. You can overcome this challenge. Your anger and anxiety do not define you. You are resilient and capable of regaining control over your life. Recognizing the issue is the first step in your journey—now take the next one.
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Summary
Understanding that your anger might stem from anxiety is a crucial first step in addressing the issue. Prioritize your safety, seek professional help through various avenues, and explore options for therapy and medication. It’s essential to navigate payment options and be cautious of unverified remedies. Remember that you are not defined by your anger or anxiety; with the right support, you can reclaim your life.