It recently struck me that my circle of friends isn’t quite as expansive as I thought. I have plenty of acquaintances from various stages of my life, a wonderful family who often doubles as my best friends, and a fantastic neighborhood filled with energetic kids zooming around on bikes and scooters. However, when it comes to that quintessential “mom friend” — you know, the one who stands by you through diaper disasters and toddler meltdowns — I’m lacking in that department. The reason? I’m somewhat selective. Finding a true mom friend is akin to dating on steroids, only with the added complication of juggling 2–4 little ones (i.e., the ever-demanding kids).
This led me to think about the qualities that define my ideal mom friend. Remember those lists we used to make about our dream partner’s traits? Here’s my wishlist for the perfect mom friend. See if you can relate!
- Authenticity is Key: The most vital trait for me is to be genuine. Let’s skip the perfectionism and the “look at my flawless children” posts. That picture I shared? It’s a bit blurry because I had no one to take it, and my hair is a mess. I’m just a mom carrying a baby and two bottles of wine — and that’s real life!
- Be Laid-Back: High-energy friends are not for me. I already have enough excitement coming from my three little ones.
- Enjoy a Glass of Wine: If wine isn’t your thing, please don’t judge me when I indulge in a second or third glass. Parenting is no small feat!
- No Judging Zone: Let’s throw out the judgment. I’m hard enough on myself without your added input.
- Don’t Take Cancellations Personally: I’m often exhausted, like really bone-tired. If I need to cancel plans, please understand.
- Forgive My Forgetfulness: If I accidentally leave you off an invite, know it’s not deliberate; I probably just spaced out.
- Text Over Calls: Let’s stick to texting unless we schedule a phone chat paired with a glass of wine!
- Social Media Engagement: You can post all you want, but I might pretend I didn’t see it. Hearing it from you in person is so much more enjoyable.
- Laugh Along: When I share a funny story (even if you don’t find it amusing), please humor me and let me retell it when we meet. I love making you laugh.
- Good Partners Matter: Your husband should be someone I enjoy spending time with. Double dates are a must!
- Discipline is Fine: If my kids are misbehaving, feel free to step in and correct them. I expect them to respect you.
- Messy Homes are Welcome: My house won’t always be spotless, and if yours is, I might feel like you’re trying too hard. Let’s be real with each other.
- Appreciate Each Other’s Hustle: No matter what your job entails, whether you’re chasing toddlers or working from home, I support your efforts.
- Venting with Limits: We can share our frustrations, but let’s steer clear of gossip and focus on uplifting topics — like our future as empty nesters.
- Plan Getaways: Let’s organize a trip together, or at least a night away to relax and enjoy. We both deserve a break!
- Reconnect Easily: If we haven’t spoken in a while, send me a text. Let’s grab coffee and catch up without any awkwardness.
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In summary, finding that perfect mom friend who gets the chaos of parenting and values authenticity, support, and fun is crucial. If you resonate with this, let’s connect!