This morning, I woke up, poured myself a cup of coffee, and dove into the day—getting the kids dressed, checking emails, feeding them, and packing their bags. After sending them off to school, I took a deep breath, opened my to-do list, and set to work.
As a freelance writer and parenting blogger, moderating comments on my blog is part of my daily routine. As my audience grows, so does the time I spend filtering through comments. It seems like trolls are on the rise lately, and it’s frustrating.
While it can be a tedious task to sift through comments, the real challenge lies in deciding which trolls to ban and which ones to ignore. I see messages like this regularly:
Typically, I don’t engage with negativity. I have no room for that in my life. But today, I feel the need to speak up. When I looked at the profile picture of one particular commenter, I was taken aback. This man, who made such hurtful remarks about women, has a daughter—a sweet little girl who seems to be the light of his life.
So here I am, taking a moment to address you directly, sir. I know you can’t see this because you’ve been banned for your hateful comment, but I did take a moment to see you. I noticed the joyful trips you share with your daughter, the way your eyes light up when you’re with her. I can tell she means everything to you.
But I can’t help wondering: How can a father like you harbor such animosity towards women while raising a lovely girl? You may believe that these two aspects of your life are separate, but you’re mistaken. You think you can hop onto my page, share your derogatory comments, and then return to tucking your precious girl into bed, all without facing any consequences. You’re wrong.
By spreading negativity and demeaning comments about women, you are contributing to a culture that undermines the voices of women everywhere. You are perpetuating the very attitudes that suggest a woman’s voice is insignificant. Isn’t that what you expressed with your comment? Yes, that’s exactly the message you sent.
I’m not worried about myself; I’ve faced worse than just being dismissed as “another mom with nothing to say.” But your daughter? She is still finding her place in this world. Do you want her to absorb those harmful ideas about women? Or worse, to come to believe them?
I know trolls often think their comments are harmless fun, that they don’t impact the future of their loved ones. But let me assure you: Your toxic views contribute to a mindset your daughter will have to navigate someday. Words have power. They echo through time, reinforcing damaging notions with every careless comment.
Think about how you’d feel if someone spoke those same words to your daughter. Your words have the potential to resonate in her life, shaping her perception of her own worth.
It all boils down to a simple principle: Be kind. Share positivity instead of hate. Promote love rather than disrespect. It’s not that difficult, really.
But what do I know? Just another mom, right? Wrong. And I truly hope you come to understand this sooner rather than later—for your daughter’s sake.
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In summary, it’s crucial to recognize how our words and actions affect those around us, especially the younger generation. Encouraging kindness and respect is fundamental in creating a better world for our children.