A year has passed since I endured my second miscarriage within eight months. Last summer, my partner and I made the decision to grow our family. The first loss hit me so unexpectedly that I struggled to process it as a true loss. However, it was indeed a loss. I falsely believed that because I had conceived so quickly after my first miscarriage, getting pregnant again would be easy.
I was mistaken.
Just days before Memorial Day weekend last year, I saw that pink plus sign. Yet, by June 1st, things had taken a distressing turn. I held onto hope, desperate to believe this pregnancy wouldn’t end in heartbreak, but I was wrong. Three days later, my doctor confirmed that I had miscarried again.
Today, I’m cradling my 2-month-old daughter, but the ache from last year lingers. It pains me to reflect on how my body managed to conceive twice yet failed to protect those fragile beginnings. The thought that I could have been holding a 5-month-old or even celebrating a 1-year-old fills me with sorrow.
On the due date of my first miscarriage, I found myself at a cemetery, grappling with the reality of losing two pregnancies in less than a year. During my daughter’s pregnancy, I was so fearful that I barely spoke about it for the first 11 weeks, terrified of facing another loss.
Each time I fill out medical forms and note that I’ve had four pregnancies, while only two of those resulted in living children, it stings. I often find myself scrolling through social media, feeling a pang of hurt when I see announcements of new babies, especially when the sibling is just a year old. A year ago, I never thought my son, who was nearly three then, would have a sibling.
When others comment on the nearly four-year age gap between my children, attributing it to thoughtful planning, I hold back the truth: two pregnancies were lost in the quest for a sibling for my son. I don’t want the conversation to become uncomfortable.
Days after my second miscarriage, I sat at a friend’s wedding, tears welling in my eyes. My husband squeezed my hand, understanding the weight of my grief in that moment. Just five days before my daughter was born, I was informed she was breech, requiring a C-section. My mind spiraled into irrational fears, convinced that my body had failed yet another baby.
Over the past year since that second loss, so much has transformed. I am profoundly grateful for the healthy daughter I’ve been blessed with, yet that gratitude coexists with the grief from last year. The reality of having lost two pregnancies between my children will forever be a part of my story.
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In summary, the journey of navigating loss while celebrating new life is complex and filled with mixed emotions. While I cherish my daughter, the memories of those lost pregnancies linger, reminding me of the fragility of life.