I often notice a common theme among fathers of daughters: the stern warnings they issue to any boy who dares to express interest in dating their little girl. Who hasn’t come across those intimidating images of a dad brandishing a rifle while glaring at his daughter’s date for prom? This mentality seems to start from the very beginning — and it’s not just the dads who play a role.
From the moment a newborn photo appears on social media, the comments start pouring in: “Better start polishing your shotgun!” or “Looks like someone’s going to need a lock and key!” While these remarks are intended to be lighthearted, they often lose their charm when taken too seriously.
I understand, Dad — you want to protect your daughter. And guess what? I feel the same way about my son. I don’t want to see him hurt or taken advantage of any more than you do for your child. As parents, regardless of our children’s gender, the thought of them suffering at the hands of someone else puts us on high alert, and I completely get that.
Now, imagine if the roles were reversed. What if your daughter came to my door for the first time, and I confronted her with a menacing tone, saying, “Listen here, you little vixen, break my son’s heart and you’ll regret it”? How would that make you feel? It would be both rude and unfair, wouldn’t it? She deserves to be treated with respect, just like our sons do.
Let’s give our children — and our parenting skills — some credit. Throughout their upbringing, we equip them to become responsible adults. By the time they start exploring romantic relationships, they possess enough maturity to navigate these situations. If they need to be coerced into good behavior, then we’ve missed the mark in our parenting.
If my son meets your daughter and behaves poorly, absolutely, you have every right to address it. Feel free to bring it to my attention, and I’ll ensure he hears about it too. But let’s give him the chance to show he can be respectful. Your presence alone will communicate how much you value your daughter, and he shouldn’t need to be intimidated into treating her well.
I’m raising my son to understand boundaries and the importance of consent. He’s being taught to be respectful and mindful of others’ feelings, to recognize a woman’s worth, and to have integrity. I’m also ensuring he has a solid understanding of sexual health and responsibility, so when the time comes, he can protect himself and his partner.
I trust that you are raising your daughters in a similar fashion — to be kind, decent human beings. I believe you want them to choose partners who reflect those values, just as I trust my son to treat others with kindness and respect, as I’ve diligently worked to instill in him.
So here’s my promise to you: When my son is ready to date your daughter, I will approach her with kindness and warmth. I won’t intimidate her or threaten her in any way. Instead, I’ll welcome her with a smile, because if she likes my son, then we already have something in common.
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Summary
In summary, let’s shift the narrative surrounding dating and relationships for our children. As parents, we play a crucial role in modeling respect and understanding. By empowering our sons and daughters to treat each other with dignity, we contribute to a healthier dynamic that benefits everyone involved.