Dear author of yet another open letter criticizing parents for letting their kids use iPads in restaurants:
I truly wonder why publications keep sharing these letters. This isn’t a fresh topic; it’s been discussed countless times, yet the messages remain stagnant and uninspired. Instead of diving into the usual debates of modern parenting, I simply want to suggest you focus on your own life and stop being condescending. Your letter was less about enlightening parents and more about showcasing your self-proclaimed superiority as a “model mom.” Congratulations on your judgmental remarks, but perhaps it’s time for some introspection.
Let’s take a look at your points regarding why parents should refrain from using technology to entertain their kids during a brief restaurant visit.
“Your kids crave your attention.”
Let’s be real. If given the option, my kids would eagerly trade me for a tablet with endless streaming. Yes, they enjoy my company, but they also love watching their favorite shows. I happily cheer them on at the playground, and in return, I deserve a break—one that involves adult conversation without any interruptions.
“You’ll lose their interest.”
Just because my children may tune me out in their teenage years doesn’t mean I need to pour all my energy into them during their early years. Hovering over them constantly will likely lead to them wanting space when they hit adolescence. Balance is key for both parents and kids.
“You’re neglecting communication skills.”
Your quick judgment of a family enjoying a meal together doesn’t provide the full picture. They might engage in meaningful conversations outside of that single moment. Regardless, how they choose to spend their family time is ultimately none of your business.
“You’re setting a poor example.”
Your critique of parents seeking a peaceful moment over dinner is, quite frankly, rude. Suggesting that allowing kids to use devices will lead to a lack of connection is not only presumptuous but also unkind. Teaching children to look down on others is a far worse example than letting them enjoy a little screen time.
“It’s bothersome to other diners.”
Kids can be disruptive in restaurants, whether they’re using devices or not. For every complaint about iPads at the table, there’s another about parents daring to bring children out in public. Your patronizing advice about device-free dinners as if it’s a novel concept is tiresome to hear.
When I see a family dining out with their kids watching a show, my response is to commend them for carving out some much-needed time for themselves. Many families can’t afford babysitters, and if using a tablet while dining out is the worst decision they make, they’re likely doing better than many.
In closing, let’s remember that parenting is a journey filled with choices, and what works for one family may not work for another. Instead of judging, let’s support one another.
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