Parenting Insights
Recent research from a diverse group of experts in business and social sciences has revealed something that many overwhelmed parents already know: swearing can actually indicate a level of honesty! Well, holy moly! Can I get an enthusiastic “Absolutely!”?
In a two-part study, researchers found that individuals who frequently use profanity tend to express their emotions more effectively. The findings suggest a strong correlation between the use of curse words and a person’s honesty. “The consistent results across the studies indicate that the positive relationship between profanity and honesty is significant,” the research states.
As a parent, I’ve often been told, “You always voice what I’m thinking!” or “I appreciate your straightforwardness!” Perhaps that’s because, while I was sharing the unfiltered truths of parenthood, I unconsciously included my fair share of expletives. My rants about “Motherhood is exhausting!” and “This parenting journey is no walk in the park!” likely shed light on their observations. Now, I can confidently say I have science backing me up.
After nearly two decades of parenting, I can’t imagine navigating the tough, mentally draining days without the release of expressing my frustrations through colorful language. When I find myself wandering through a house full of children, feeling overwhelmed, doesn’t it feel more genuine to say, “How on earth did I end up here?” instead? You bet it does! So, let’s embrace our authentic selves, ladies! Honesty truly is the best policy, right?
However, I’m aware that my candid expressions have influenced my four sons, who have developed quite the colorful vocabulary. And guess what? I’m perfectly fine with it. In fact, I take pride in it! Research published in Language Sciences indicates that those adept at using curse words often possess a richer vocabulary overall.
I can attest to this, as one of my sons, who wasn’t shy about airing his frustrations with a few choice words, achieved a remarkable score in the 99th percentile on his college entrance exams. From an early age, his vocabulary was impressive, and while it got a bit more “colorful” in his teenage years, it was a testament to his linguistic ability.
Of course, I don’t allow my teens to unleash a torrent of swearing in every situation—like at work, in public spaces, or around younger kids. Thankfully, they share my understanding of when it’s appropriate to express themselves. Knowing when to say “That’s ridiculous” out loud or keep those sentiments internal is key.
I appreciate that in a time when most teenagers retreat into their rooms and shut their parents out, I’ve fostered an environment where my sons feel comfortable sharing their true feelings with me. If it takes a few expletives for them to open up about their day, then so be it! I’m all ears and ready to hear whatever they have to say.
Perhaps if we allowed for a little more honesty in the world—like dropping an honest F-bomb or two in news reporting—we wouldn’t have such a problem with “alternative facts.” Imagine how refreshing that news broadcast would be!
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In summary, embracing authenticity—even through swearing—can foster honesty and open communication in parenting. With a little colorful language, we can navigate the challenges of raising children while staying true to ourselves.