Before I became a parent, I was quite the socialite. I sported trendy outfits, enjoyed nights out past 10 p.m., and could handle my drinks without a hitch. I even styled my hair before stepping out the door—imagine that!
Fast forward four years and two children later, and my weekends look drastically different. Gone are the evenings of gourmet dinners and spontaneous outings; now, they consist of frozen meals and animated kids’ shows.
I’m not complaining; I cherish this life filled with Netflix and messy hair. Bedtime at 9 p.m.? Absolutely! But let me assure you, it wasn’t an instant adjustment. Every parent can relate to reminiscing about the days of vibrant social gatherings. Transitioning from a social butterfly to a homebody isn’t easy, but don’t worry—acceptance will come. Soon enough, you’ll find yourself lounging on the couch at 7 p.m. on a Saturday night, in comfy clothes, enjoying a bowl of cereal.
Before that happens, you’ll need to navigate through the five stages of grief regarding your social life. Trust me; I’ve been through it all. Let’s explore.
Stage One: Denial
Picture this: you’re cozied up on the couch in your pajamas, binging your favorite show, and feeling slightly sour from the remnants of baby spit-up. Suddenly, your friend calls: “Hey, want to join me for Taco Tuesday?” Your mind races through the idea of sleep and how much you adore it. The thought of needing a babysitter and a shower feels exhausting. You might even fantasize about just hiring a sitter to skip the shower and catch some Zs instead. You’ll let them down gently, saying, “Maybe next time.” This is denial, my friend—Stage One.
Stage Two: Anger
Fast forward to the following week. You’re still on that same couch, in those same pajamas, watching the exact show, and feeling the same exhaustion. When your friend calls again for tacos, a surge of frustration bubbles up. Cereal and reruns instead of tacos and a cold drink? How did you end up here? You glance at your adorable baby, who you love deeply, but anger washes over you. Welcome to Stage Two: anger.
Stage Three: Bargaining
You find yourself pondering why this is happening. “I miss my social life! What could I have done differently?” The universe responds: “You wanted to be a parent, remember?” You realize the truth and reluctantly concede, “Okay, you win, Universe.” This is the bargaining phase.
Stage Four: Depression
As you spiral into thoughts of never enjoying Taco Tuesday again, you convince yourself that your friends must resent you. Date nights are a thing of the past, and everything feels dull and miserable. The world seems bleak. Welcome to Stage Four: depression.
Stage Five: Acceptance
Finally, you arrive at a place of acceptance. You discover that binge-watching your favorite series can be even more enjoyable than overpriced outings. You also learn that your local taco joint delivers—no need to even put on a bra! Instead of mourning your social life, you start to celebrate the joys of motherhood. After all, you’ve created little miracles. Who has time to wallow? Not you! So, pour yourself a glass of wine and enjoy the quiet moment. There are plenty of episodes of Gilmore Girls to catch up on, and those tacos are about to arrive at your door.
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In summary, the transition to parenthood may lead you through a range of emotions regarding your social life, but eventually, you will find joy in your new routine and the beauty of family.