In the realm of parenting, the question often arises: should you set up a gift registry for your child’s birthday? As parenting expert Julia Harper notes in a recent article, such registries can shift the focus from celebrating friendships to merely unwrapping presents. Kids might start to believe they will receive everything on their wish list, or worse, that gifts hold no value unless they’ve specifically asked for them. I completely resonate with this perspective.
When my children receive invitations to birthday parties, we always select the gift together. I never request a list from the parents; if that were the case, I’d rather just give a cash gift and be done with it. Instead, we sit together at the computer—why brave the store when online shopping is at our fingertips? I help them find something their friend would truly appreciate, filtering options by what’s available through Amazon Prime and fits our budget. They pick the gift, create a heartfelt card, and often, they attend parties where the gifts are opened after the crowd has dispersed. While it might be nice to have everyone present during the reveal for smaller gatherings, larger parties can turn chaotic quite quickly.
I do recognize that some relatives appreciate a bit of direction when it comes to gift-giving. For those who are not involved in the daily lives of my children, a little guidance can help them choose presents that the kids will truly enjoy. I’m not one to be difficult about it; I’m more than willing to suggest ideas or even share links to desired items when asked.
Reflecting on my own childhood, I remember making Christmas lists with friends. My list included suggestions for family and friends, while my friend’s was a detailed compilation of items he wanted, complete with brands. I hadn’t encountered this type of list-making before, but it’s a common practice today. My kids, too, have their wish lists for holidays, but they understand that wanting something doesn’t guarantee they will receive it.
Julia sums it up beautifully: “Not every desire in life will be fulfilled, not every good or even reasonable expectation will be met. Maintaining a thankful heart in all things is an incredibly valuable skill.” It’s a lesson worth embracing.
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In summary, while gift registries can simplify gift-giving, they risk overshadowing the spirit of the occasion. It’s essential to strike a balance between guiding relatives and encouraging gratitude among kids.
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