My partner and I recently embarked on a day date, which is akin to an evening outing minus the cocktails and the need for a babysitter. Though, to clarify, I did indulge in a refreshing Mexican Mule during lunch, so there was indeed some alcohol involved. The restaurant featured an impressive selection of craft cocktails, and I felt it was only right to support the artisans behind these delicious creations. Given my intentional choice to enjoy a midday drink, I believe there’s no room for judgment—only appreciation. After all, it’s hard to go wrong with anything labeled “Mexican,” unless, of course, it goes horribly awry.
We decided on this day date because we’ve realized that our lives have become a whirlwind of work commitments, travel, school schedules, and the endless activities of our children. At times, it feels like we’re merely checking off boxes instead of genuinely experiencing life. I worry that if we don’t shift out of this routine, we might forget what drew us to each other in the first place, not to mention losing sight of what we love about ourselves and our beloved, cone-wearing dog—who, by the way, is still my absolute favorite.
A Significant Transition
This year marks a significant transition for us; our youngest has started kindergarten, and our oldest is becoming increasingly independent. This newfound freedom has been both exciting and relieving. With everyone able to manage their bathroom breaks and snack raids from the pantry without my supervision, I’ve found myself stepping down from my role as the Healthy Snack Patrol Officer. However, this transition has also highlighted some gaps in our marriage and brought attention back to our individual identities.
As we emerge from the fog of parenthood, we’re discovering that we are more than just mom and dad; we are individuals with distinct tastes and beliefs—some shared, some not. Navigating this new phase feels uncertain, but it’s essential we recognize that we’re partners in this journey. I’m grateful for that connection.
Fostering Our Relationship
We’re implementing small changes to foster our relationship. We’re starting to set aside time for each other and asking questions that go beyond the usual topics of carpools or children’s cartoons. It felt liberating to laugh and escape the weight of daily responsibilities, which can sometimes make it difficult to realize the need for a little fun.
One day, our kids will leave home, likely off to college while dutifully following societal norms, and I realize we need to nurture our relationship now so it can grow alongside them. While I cherish these moments with our children, I also know that as they enter the world, my partner and I need to be ready to embrace our own adventures.
Appreciating the Little Things
Truthfully, I rely on my partner in ways that are often overlooked. He’s the one who rolls down the car window when someone sneezes, a reminder of that infamous 7th-grade science movie that’s forever etched in my mind. He’s also a master of the French press in the mornings, a time when I’m still grappling with the reality of the day. Sure, he might whistle annoyingly while brewing coffee, but he also brings me that perfect cup in bed, and he’s taught our kids to be cheerful too—which is probably more beneficial than the grumpiness I tend to exude during those early hours.
I share this because these challenges are universal. Social media often distorts our perceptions of others’ lives, making them appear perfect when, in reality, everyone has their struggles. I won’t post photos of my kids turning their noses up at dinner, or my husband looking exasperated (he’s been losing hair for 16 years, which is amusing considering I’ve been the calm influence in his life throughout that time). Let’s remember that everyone deals with their own issues, and while your life may seem flawless, it’s likely not as perfect as it appears.
The Ongoing Journey
I can’t wrap this up neatly because marriage is a continual work in progress. Just know that as you navigate your own reality today, I’m doing the same, and it’s not always as pretty as social media might suggest. Sometimes it’s just messy, with our dog looking like he’s emerged from a cone-shaped nightmare.
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Conclusion
In summary, it’s essential to carve out time for your partner amidst the chaos of parenting. As life transitions, nurturing your relationship becomes crucial to ensure it thrives alongside your growing family.