As a physician, I’ve found that sometimes the best way to express my feelings is through a simple gesture. While it might seem a bit extreme, showing someone the middle finger can often convey just how little I care about their unsolicited opinions. Society tends to label assertive women as angry or unpleasant, but really, we’re just too busy to engage in unnecessary debates. Here are seven situations where you can bet I’ll be raising that finger.
1. Mansplaining
If I’m speaking and you decide to interrupt or talk over me, trying to correct my thoughts or feelings in a condescending tone, don’t expect a polite conversation. Instead, you’ll find my middle finger pointing your way as you attempt to explain why you’re not mansplaining. Spoiler alert: You are.
2. Catcalling
It baffles me that catcalling persists. Newsflash: Women do not find this flattering. Does shouting “Hey gorgeous, come here!” ever lead to anything positive? Because the only responses you’ll get from me are a dirty look or a raised finger. It’s time to realize that this isn’t charming; it’s just disrespectful.
3. Telling Me to Smile
A woman’s smile isn’t your command to issue. If you think telling me to smile will magically lift my spirits, you’re mistaken. I have never felt compelled to change my demeanor based on someone else’s discomfort. If you insist, prepare for the one-finger salute.
4. Criticizing My Language
When you tell me to watch my language, it only makes me want to use profanity even more creatively. Swearing is part of my vernacular, and I enjoy it! Instead of worrying about my choice of words, focus on more important issues. Maybe consider advocating against negative language directed at women instead.
5. “Act Like a Lady”
We all know what this means: you want me to conform to your idea of femininity. Well, I’ll act however I choose, and you’ll just have to deal with it. Women are free to express themselves in any manner they see fit in 2023. Get used to it.
6. Critiquing My Outfit Choices
Your opinion on what I wear is irrelevant. Whether I’m in heels or loungewear, I choose my clothing for my comfort and style, not for your approval. Keep your judgments to yourself; my wardrobe is none of your business.
7. Unasked Parenting Advice
As a parent, I know where to seek advice when I need it. If I’m not asking for your opinion, please refrain from offering it. Your passive-aggressive comments about my parenting choices are just as rude as my middle finger. Mind your own business, and let me raise my children how I see fit.
So yes, that middle finger might be my go-to response, and it feels quite empowering. It’s not a sign of being hurt or overwhelmed; it’s simply my way of saying I’m not interested in your nonsense. If you find yourself in one of these situations, don’t hesitate to raise that finger. It’s a powerful statement!
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