Every weekday, I am immersed in the world of parenting young children. I handle everything from wiping faces and changing diapers to preparing meals and reading stories. I shuttle the kids to various activities, manage their schoolwork, and conduct science experiments. I offer hugs, mediate disputes over toys, and sometimes sneak away to the bathroom for a moment of peace—though someone inevitably finds me. My lunch often consists of whatever leftovers the kids leave behind, all while juggling the needs of our pets.
By 4:30 p.m., my partner arrives home. We collapse onto the bed in front of the TV, and he takes on his share of parenting responsibilities, from cooking dinner to managing the chaos. While I may feel overwhelmed at times, I am grateful I’m not navigating this journey alone.
Unlike many parents, I wake up at my own pace, without the stress of a 6 a.m. alarm to rush my kids to daycare. I don’t face the pressures of a job that I might dislike, nor do I have to worry about late fees at daycare if I hit traffic. I admire the resilience of single parents who manage to juggle everything on their own.
There’s much discussion about the so-called “mommy wars,” pitting stay-at-home parents against those who work outside the home. But let me make one thing clear: I don’t judge you. I admire you. I can’t fathom how you manage to parent solo. I complain when my partner is away for a weekend, and I can’t imagine handling everything without that support. You are the unsung heroes, tirelessly ensuring your children are fed, loved, and cared for, while also keeping the household running smoothly.
I understand that some may view daycare with disdain, but as a single parent, you often have no other choice. You strive to find the best fit for your kids, and that is no small feat. It must be incredibly challenging when childcare options close unexpectedly, forcing you to scramble for alternatives while balancing a tight budget.
After a long day at work, coming home to start the parenting routine again—without any assistance—must feel like an uphill battle. You manage everything from cooking and cleaning to laundry all on your own. You are the one responsible for ensuring everyone has clean clothes, the right shoes, and enough groceries. These seemingly mundane tasks are monumental achievements in the life of a single parent.
Despite the challenges, you keep your kids thriving and happy. I have the luxury of support, yet I still struggle with feelings of exhaustion and burnout. You, however, continue to persevere without a break in sight, and for that, you deserve all the recognition.
Let’s put aside any competition or judgment regarding our parenting choices. It’s exhausting to engage in discussions about formula versus breastfeeding or daycare versus at-home care. Many of us are simply trying to stay afloat. I may not know your struggles first-hand, but I see your happy, healthy kids and recognize your incredible dedication.
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In summary, being a parent—especially a single one—is an incredible challenge that deserves recognition and respect. We are all in this together, trying our best for our children.