As a physician and a mom, I often find myself balancing the demands of motherhood with the realities of keeping a home. After reading some extreme cleaning regimens online, I found myself overwhelmed. Weekly laundry? Daily dishwashing? What even are baseboards? It became clear that I needed a more manageable approach to housework—one that allowed me to prioritize my well-being and my family.
J.K. Rowling once said, “People very often say to me, ‘How did you do it? How did you raise a baby and write a book?’ and the answer is, I didn’t do housework for four years!” This resonated with me. I’m not here to be a perfect homemaker; I’m here to survive and thrive! So, here are my tips for cutting corners effectively, so you can focus on what truly matters—like taking a well-deserved nap or pursuing your passions.
1. Dishes Once a Day
If washing dishes feels like a chore, allow yourself to skip it for a day. When you run out of Tupperware lids to use as makeshift plates, it’s time to invest in some disposable ones.
2. Wash Sheets Only When Necessary
Unless you’re in a particularly active relationship, there’s no need to wash your sheets weekly. Wait until they start to smell or look questionable. You’ll be amazed at how long you can go without washing them—just try not to think too hard about what’s on your mattress!
3. Delegate Responsibilities
Teaching your partner to appreciate a less-than-perfect home can be a game-changer. Make a deal—if they can ignore the overflowing laundry basket, you’ll reward them later. This way, you conserve energy for the fun parts of your relationship.
4. “Is It Gross?” Rule
Instead of a rigid cleaning schedule, adopt a simple rule: clean it only if it’s gross. If you see something dirty, handle it; if not, let it slide. My floors may not get scrubbed until they resemble a crime scene, but it keeps the stress levels down.
5. Encourage Independent Play
Letting your kids entertain themselves is essential. With four kids, I’ve learned to encourage them to play together. Yes, they may squabble, but they also learn valuable social skills while you get a moment to breathe or tidy up.
6. Quick Clean for Visitors
When guests are on their way, I can whip my house into a “presentable” state in no time. This means a quick pick-up and an obligatory “please excuse the mess” when they arrive. Perfection isn’t the goal; a livable environment is.
7. Don’t Forget Your Well-being
It’s easy to let anxiety rise when you see clutter. If housework becomes overwhelming, consider seeking support, whether it’s from a friend or a professional. Sometimes a little help can make a world of difference.
8. Pursue Your Interests
While tidying up is important, don’t forget about your dreams. If you love writing, for instance, prioritize that over organizing your closet. Remember the saying, “Happy wife, happy life?” It’s true! When you’re fulfilled, you’re more present for your family.
For more insights on handling the intersection of home life and personal aspirations, visit this blog post. Also, if you’re navigating the journey of parenthood, Kindbody offers excellent resources. And for couples looking to enhance their fertility journey, check out Make a Mom for expert guidance.
In summary, it’s all about finding balance. Embrace imperfection, delegate tasks, and don’t lose sight of your happiness.