As a physician, I often encounter parents, especially stay-at-home moms (SAHMs), who feel overwhelmed by their daily responsibilities. Take, for instance, a talented artist named Laura. She creates stunning fiber art from home, a passion she has nurtured for years. After the birth of her son, she was determined to balance her career with motherhood. Initially, she managed well, feeling fortunate to avoid the costs of full-time daycare. However, as her child grew more active and his nap times dwindled, Laura quickly recognized the need for additional support. So, she made the decision to hire a sitter, and she felt no remorse about it.
If you find yourself in a similar situation, I encourage you to consider the benefits of hiring someone to help you. Whether it’s so you can take a moment to yourself, enjoy a hot shower, or even indulge in a quiet moment to apply your skincare routine, don’t hesitate to reach out for help.
Many mothers possess an incredible tenacity, often believing they must handle everything alone. This mindset can make it challenging to ask for assistance, particularly for those working from home. However, there is no shame in seeking help. If you need someone to watch your child for a couple of hours to regain your sanity, do not hold back.
You might find yourself thinking:
- “I’m at home. Isn’t it odd to hire a sitter?”
Not at all. It’s far stranger to feel frazzled by 4 p.m. while juggling dinner prep, laundry, and childcare all at once. - “I should be managing this on my own.”
Hiring help is a smart way of ensuring you can function better and be the best version of yourself. - “I feel guilty.”
Let go of that guilt. It’s common advice, but it’s essential. You deserve time for yourself, whether that means painting in peace or lounging with a good book. - “This is my family; I shouldn’t need assistance.”
While it’s true you made the choice to have a family, you can still prioritize your well-being. Taking a break is not a failure; it’s a necessity. - “What will others think if I hire a sitter?”
Honestly, who cares? When they see you rejuvenated after a little personal time, they may even envy your choice. - “It’s too expensive.”
Consider bartering with a friend or finding a local teenager who can help for a few hours. This way, you can support each other without any financial strain.
A memorable advertisement from years ago depicted a mother loading a dishwasher on Mother’s Day, underscoring the idea that many mothers never truly get a break. It resonated deeply with me, reflecting the reality that moms often go without adequate time for themselves. Remember this the next time you feel guilty about hiring a sitter. You deserve more than just a fleeting acknowledgment of your hard work.
So, take the step and hire that sitter. You’re worth it.
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In summary, as a stay-at-home mom, seeking help through hiring a sitter is not just acceptable; it’s essential for maintaining your well-being and happiness. Don’t hesitate to prioritize yourself—after all, your health and happiness benefit the entire family.