I received my first tattoo at the age of 18, visiting a reputable tattoo shop in my city alongside a close friend. While she opted for a delicate blue star on her foot, I chose a 6-inch angel emblazoned on my back. As I left the parlor, my skin pulsing beneath the protective plastic wrap, I felt an exhilarating sense of confidence. Sure, I briefly worried about my mother’s reaction, but that concern didn’t last long. I was assured in my choice to permanently inscribe vibrant ink on my skin, and the thought of future regret didn’t cross my mind. I didn’t think about how I would explain that tattoo to my children, nor did I consider what my 40-year-old self might think of my decision.
I’ve encountered many individuals who lament their tattoos. Some regret the permanent change to their skin, while others are dissatisfied with the design itself. I can empathize with their feelings of regret, as I am no stranger to the concept. However, when it comes to my tattoos? Not a shred of regret exists.
Interestingly, my lack of regret is somewhat surprising. I’m known for making impulsive decisions, which often leads to regret later on. At the time I got my tattoo, I was very young, and the design I chose is not something I would select today. Two decades later, it has faded significantly, and the angel’s foot resembles something quite laughable—let’s just say it looks a lot like a male anatomy feature. Once you see it, you can’t unsee it, leading to a chuckle rather than regret.
Despite the many reasons to reconsider that large angel tattoo, I stand firm in my decision. I have indeed made mistakes in my life, but getting that tattoo is not among them. In fact, I have since added several more tattoos to my collection, and I don’t regret any of them either. While I may not feel equally passionate about each one, I embrace them all as part of my journey.
Many people express concern over the permanence of tattoos, but perhaps that is part of their appeal. In a world where change is constant and unpredictability is the norm, my tattoos serve as enduring reminders of my personal narrative. They also represent a playful approach to life; I prefer to embrace the less serious aspects of existence. What matters most lies beneath the surface—my character and values.
Some worry about the potential professional consequences of having tattoos. However, as societal views evolve and the workplace becomes more inclusive, tattoos are increasingly accepted in various fields. According to a Pew Research survey, 23% of Americans sport at least one tattoo, and that number rises to 32% among those aged 30 to 45.
What about the message my tattoos convey to my children? Am I inadvertently encouraging them to get tattoos at a young age? Maybe, but that’s not necessarily a bad thing. I want my kids to understand that external appearances—whether related to skin color, hairstyles, or body art—don’t define a person’s character. My tattoos exemplify the idea that being a good parent doesn’t hinge on adhering to societal norms.
Should my children decide to get tattoos when they are older, I won’t discourage them. Instead, I’ll advise them to reflect carefully on their choices, considering the permanence of such a decision. I’ll emphasize that inner qualities far outweigh outward appearances and that my love for them remains unconditional. And of course, I’ll ask, “Can I join you?”
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In summary, my tattoos are not just skin-deep; they signify a part of my life journey that I embrace without regret. They serve as reminders of my past, my values, and the love I have for my family, teaching important lessons about acceptance and individuality.