When it comes to the festive season, some individuals seem to juggle every task effortlessly — I am not one of those individuals. I genuinely put in the effort because I adore the holiday spirit. If you could imagine a blend of a meticulous holiday planner and a whimsical elf, that would be me. I decorate my home, bake treats, and play holiday music non-stop from Halloween to New Year’s. I embrace it all for the joy it brings me, regardless of any critics.
However, I’ve learned through experience (as many do) that attempting to do everything often drains the joy from the occasion. I’ve made a conscious decision to focus my energy on the activities that matter most and bring the greatest happiness to my family. I refuse to overextend myself or create unnecessary stress during this cherished time.
Holidays should be about gratitude and spending quality time together, free from the burdens that can overshadow the joy of the season. To achieve this, I’ve established new traditions that allow me to enjoy leisurely moments watching holiday movies while sipping nog straight from the carton, instead of feeling overwhelmed over a tray of cookies.
A few years back, the women in my family collectively decided to stop exchanging gifts. As our families expanded and the number of nieces and nephews grew, the task became daunting. Rather than stress over what to buy each other, we now prioritize spending quality time together. This often translates to delightful dinners out, just the ladies, where we can enjoy a meal without the hassle of cooking or cleaning. I also host a cookie swap (store-bought cookies and pajamas are totally acceptable), where we indulge in sweet treats and sip wine while singing and dancing. Trust me, our rendition of “The 12 Days of Christmas” is something you have to see to believe.
With the money and time saved from gift exchanges, we engage in more meaningful acts. One of my favorite traditions is taking my kids to our local country store to select a name from the Angel Tree. We’ve been doing this for nearly a decade, teaching my children the importance of gratitude. We also donate holiday dinners to a local food bank, contribute a generous amount to St. Jude, treat the people behind us in the drive-thru, and even surprise acquaintances with gifts we know they’ll appreciate. One memorable year, I gifted a bracelet to a lady at our favorite burger joint who admired mine; the joy of her surprise was priceless.
We’ve also let go of some traditions that felt more like chores, such as sending holiday cards. While I appreciate receiving them, I found the process stressful, so I decided to skip it altogether. It’s perfectly acceptable to change or abandon traditions that no longer bring you or your family joy.
During the holidays, my goal is to fully immerse myself in the experience. I want to drive around in my pajamas with my family, sipping cocoa while gazing at the festive lights. I look forward to cooking with my kids, making a delightful mess in the kitchen as we bake. Sure, our creations may not be flawless, but I cherish each moment, especially when my son decides to decorate his gingerbread man with a unique flair.
I love browsing Pinterest for creative ideas, even if I don’t complete every project I pin. The anticipation often holds its own magic. While I enjoy holiday gatherings, I might skip some to relish quiet evenings at home beside the Christmas tree, with my kids asleep and my dogs nestled by my feet.
Real magic is often found in simplicity. It’s the warmth of your kitchen while making family recipes, the smile from a stranger after a kind gesture, or the nostalgic memory of a loved one sharing carols with your child. If I rush through the season, I risk missing these precious moments while chasing material gifts for those who may not need them.
Letting go of the unnecessary to embrace what truly matters will be the best gift you can give yourself and your family.
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