Today marks your 8th birthday! Before you reach the tumultuous years of 10 and 13, I thought it best to express the immense love I have for you.
Honestly, before you came along, I was indifferent about having children. I know that sounds strange, but hear me out—it’s a journey from ambivalence to absolute adoration in no time.
I never really envisioned myself as a mother until I met your father. I didn’t even think about dating him initially. But then he made me pancakes, and I realized not every guy 1) listens, 2) cooks, 3) has that charming smile, and 4) genuinely appreciates you. That’s when I fell for him, and two years later, you entered our lives.
You are a beautiful blend of both your father and me. While that may sound simple, it actually means everything. You are sensitive and fiercely loyal, funny and kind-hearted, talented and imaginative, and yes, adorable with those chubby cheeks and your athletic spirit.
As young parents, we were quite anxious. How would a baby fit into our lives in our early 20s? How could we possibly provide the love, support, and encouragement that we often missed from our own parents? You know we stumble and sometimes fall short, but it’s never due to a lack of love. Our imperfections stem from the fact that we are, quite frankly, just your parents.
Like the time your dad jokingly compared Jesus to a zombie. I know that made you roll your eyes at him, and honestly, I can’t blame you. He drives me up the wall too. Like on Valentine’s Day, when he handed me an iTunes gift card as my special gift, or when he leaves a single glass in the sink after I’ve just finished washing dishes for the umpteenth time.
And who could forget that Girl Scout trip to New York City? I know you hated when I pulled you along, treating you like a toddler as I gripped your hand in front of your friends. But I was frantic trying to find you at the Statue of Liberty! You still bring it up, don’t you? That’s your way of getting back at me for that day.
We are your parents, and yes, we will absolutely mess up. We will:
- cause you pain,
- make you cry,
- let you down,
- deny some of your requests,
- maybe not fund your college,
- continue to insist on veggies,
- shout,
- limit your screen time,
- encourage resilience,
- and likely require your assistance when we’re older.
Please know, your father and I are dreamers, not venture capitalists. Our bank account may not be full, but our hearts overflow with love. We hope we have instilled in you the understanding that money and love are two entirely different things.
We believe in being honest about our shortcomings—this “contract” of our failures is meant to cushion the blow when you eventually seek therapy as an adult.
However, I want to emphasize: We are your biggest supporters, your loudest cheerleaders, and your unwavering fans. We are your parents and your advocates. You can confide in us, and our love for you will never waver. We won’t shame you or make you doubt your worth. We are here to help you navigate the unfairness of life and the privileges that accompany it. You are our child, a testament to our love, commitment, and dreams.
On this special day, our love for you is as profound as it was from the very first moment we laid eyes on you. We are proud of who you are, humbled by your grace, and in awe of your love for us. You are your dad’s little rock star and my sweet peanut. Live boldly, cherish every moment, stand strong against negativity, and pursue everything your heart desires.
With all our love,
Mom & Dad
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Summary:
In a heartfelt letter to their child on her 8th birthday, the parents reflect on their journey into parenthood, expressing love and acknowledging their imperfections. They emphasize their support and commitment while humorously recounting moments of parenting challenges and joys. Ultimately, they encourage their daughter to live freely and pursue her dreams.