When my partner and I discovered we were expecting our third child, we were taken aback. We thought our family was complete, but now we’re excited to welcome another little one into our lives. As soon as we shared the news with friends and family, many of my closest friends began discussing throwing a baby shower for me.
Before they dive into planning games and selecting a cute theme, I have a heartfelt request: please, no new items. I genuinely mean it—I’m almost pleading for hand-me-downs.
Having navigated two babyhoods and the whirlwind of toddler years, I’ve learned a thing or two about what’s truly necessary. I know I won’t need a wipe warmer or a fancy baby bidet for cloth diapers (which, to be honest, I won’t be using this time around). I also realize that a crib will likely just serve as a laundry basket, and co-sleeping is the way we’ll go.
I can confidently say I won’t require an umbrella stroller, bottle warmer, or an abundance of bibs. We’re already short on space, and the last thing I want is a collection of unused items. Honestly, the charm of a perfectly curated nursery has faded for me; I’ve become too practical for those extravagant touches. Who really buys a white shag carpet for a child’s room?!
What I genuinely desire are your cherished hand-me-downs. I’m looking for your beloved onesies, well-loved books, and gently used toys that hold a story. I want the items that you’re ready to part with but find too special to donate. It would warm my heart to know that your child has enjoyed these items, and now mine will too. I promise to send you photos of my little one enjoying them!
I want to hear the stories behind your gifts—the Moby wrap that soothed your colicky baby, the hand-knit booties that kept tiny feet warm in the NICU, or the baby blanket that has seen countless nights of comforting. Those narratives and the love behind them are what I want to envelop my baby in.
For each of my children, I’ve kept only a few treasured items—those that have been worn and loved to the point of breaking my heart at the thought of losing them. They’re tucked away in a wooden chest, waiting for the day my children become parents themselves. Old teddy bears, faded blankets, and rubber ducks will be preserved for the future.
With baby number three on the way, I want to fill this child’s world with the love of my dear friends as we approach this final chapter of pregnancy and newborn life. We’re all nearing the end of our childbearing journeys, and I can feel the excitement building for the new adventures awaiting us. In this fleeting moment, I want to savor every bit of babyhood before it slips away.
So, dear friends, please dig deep into your baby gear stash, sift through those old boxes in the attic, and find those quirky books and delightful toys that can find a new home with us. I can’t wait to embrace them all!
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In summary, as I prepare for my third baby shower, I’m asking for your treasured hand-me-downs instead of new items. I want to create a loving atmosphere for my new addition with the stories and memories tied to your gently used gifts.