When I completed my medical degree, I began working as a resident at a prominent hospital. While the workload was intense and the hours extended, I genuinely appreciated my colleagues. Yet, one attending physician, a highly accomplished woman, made me uncomfortable. I didn’t know her well, but she came across as reserved, brusque, and somewhat intimidating. Despite her fairness and professionalism, I felt an inexplicable aversion towards her.
Similarly, I harbored a similar unease towards Hillary Clinton. As a progressive, my political reservations were not about her policies, but rather a nagging feeling that she was overly ambitious and unfriendly. I barely spent time examining her record or the controversies surrounding her; the media narratives and public opinions I encountered left me feeling uneasy. There was no substantial foundation for my feelings, yet my instincts urged me to disapprove of her.
Over time, I recognized that I had been influenced by biases I didn’t fully understand. It wasn’t an epiphany but rather a gradual awakening — akin to stirring from a deep sleep when it’s still dark outside. How could I, a liberal, open-minded, and driven woman, allow myself to fall prey to sexism? I thought my discontent was justified, but perhaps it was more complex.
The truth is, we are all shaped by the societal norms around us. Just as a non-smoker can carry the scent of cigarettes after being near a smoker, we, too, are affected by the pervasive sexism in our culture. Ignoring this reality is akin to denying a problem while holding your nose.
I began to understand that I was a product of a world that teaches girls to be charming but not too much so, to be emotionally restrained yet not too stoic, and that subtly undermines the value of our work. I was born in the late 1980s, caught between the assertive Generation X and the optimistic Millennials, and I couldn’t fathom the struggles faced by women who paved the way for me.
This evolving perspective shifted my views on women like Hillary Clinton and that attending physician. The shortcomings were not theirs; they were mine — they were ours.
Many people express a vague dislike for Hillary, yet when pressed for reasons, they often stumble over trivial issues or recycled criticisms like emails or Benghazi, which have long been resolved. Hillary has consistently demonstrated her capabilities and commitment to public service. For instance, she was instrumental in establishing the State Children’s Health Insurance Program (CHIP), which supports health coverage for children. As a U.S. Senator, she advocated for $21 billion to revitalize the World Trade Center site and ensured first responders received necessary healthcare. During her tenure as Secretary of State, she traveled to 112 countries, promoting global economic initiatives and spearheading programs to combat hunger.
And yet, the conversation often devolves to her fashion choices or whether she smiles sufficiently. This is absurd.
In recent months, I’ve come to genuinely appreciate Hillary. After attending a recent event where she spoke, I felt even more convinced she is the right person to lead this nation. Of course, she has flaws, and she’s faced her share of controversies — but who hasn’t? Anyone in public service for an extended period will encounter scrutiny.
Despite her imperfections, Hillary is a unifier, an advocate for the underrepresented, and a champion for those in need. She comes across as authentic, motivating, and relatable. If she were a man or had a different surname, we would admire her wholeheartedly; the issue lies not with her but with our perceptions.
We face a societal challenge when it comes to sexism, idolization of celebrities, and a culture of misdirected fear. Until we confront these issues collectively, we will continue to navigate toxic environments, denying the reality around us.
If your feelings towards Hillary are simply “I just don’t like her,” I urge you to reflect. Investigate her policies, examine your own biases, and have open conversations about your feelings.
Women, including Hillary, are often held to impossibly high standards. We are criticized for being too serious or labeled as “bitchy,” while also being admonished for displaying emotions as “dramatic.” If we pursue ambitious careers, we become neglectful of our families; if we prioritize family, we’re seen as lacking ambition.
There is no winning in this scenario, and it’s essential to recognize that both men and women contribute to the perpetuation of these double standards. We all play a role in this dynamic and can work towards solutions.
While I may still disagree with Hillary on certain policy issues, she is undoubtedly the most qualified candidate in this election. She exhibits genuine care and thoughtfulness, and while we don’t need to personally like every president, we should support those who align with our values.
I might have preferred another candidate, but I ultimately believe in Hillary’s ability to lead. The stakes are too high to be anything but supportive. If you’re not on board with her candidacy, it’s time to reconsider. Ignoring your reservations could lead to dire consequences for our nation.
In summary, the reflections I’ve shared highlight the complexities surrounding our perceptions of women in power and the societal influences that shape those perceptions.
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