I often think about the friendships I once had, yet surprisingly, I find I miss them less than I expected. While I do still have friends, our interactions have shifted dramatically since I became a mom of two little ones. With both kids under the age of 6, communication now mostly happens through text messages, with phone calls being a rarity and face-to-face meetings even more so.
When I welcomed my second daughter, I imagined playdates and outings, thinking life would remain similar to my experience with just one child. However, that vision quickly faded. My newborn struggled with breastfeeding in noisy environments, making dining out nearly impossible. Invitations to get-togethers dwindled, forcing me to create a semblance of normalcy for my eldest daughter and myself, which proved to be quite challenging.
Over time, however, things began to change for the better. I gradually realized that taking my children out for lunch or grocery shopping was becoming more manageable. While I prefer to tackle the bigger errands on weekends when my husband is home, I find joy in our little adventures during the week. Activities like apple picking, which we’re looking forward to this afternoon, have transformed into family outings rather than solo excursions.
In a delightful twist, my daughters have formed a bond. Just two days ago, I caught them sitting together, sharing secrets about their favorite TV show, while my husband and I watched from the kitchen, trying to contain our smiles. Their age difference doesn’t seem to hinder their playtime; in fact, my youngest has had moments of distress when her sister is at school, begging me to bring her back home.
Surprisingly, managing two kids has become easier than I thought. I can now take quick showers without the constant worry of phantom cries, knowing my girls will alert me if anything goes amiss. The years with just my eldest feel like distant, cherished memories that I hold onto tightly.
I must remind myself to savor these days of motherhood, even the challenging ones when I feel overwhelmed. I’ve realized that these “Mom of Little Kids” years are some of the most fulfilling of my life—perhaps they always will be.
During a recent chat at a restaurant with my two girls, I expressed to a stranger that had I known how wonderful sibling relationships could be, I might have embarked on this journey of motherhood sooner. Still, I wouldn’t change a thing; I adore my daughters and appreciate the special time I had with my firstborn. This spacing also allows me a little “one-on-one” time with my youngest before she starts school.
Yet, while my daughters are my treasures, they are not my friends. I still need adult companionship. Time is precious right now, and although I carve out moments for self-care—whether it’s exercising, reading a good book, or writing—I know these years with my children are fleeting.
Before I know it, my husband and I will be free of diapers, and our lives will shift into a new normal, one without little ones at home. I don’t want to rush through this period, even if some days feel overwhelming. My kids often ask me to do puzzles instead of allowing me to call friends, and while I miss those connections, I know that in a few years, reaching out will be much easier. For now, texting will have to suffice as we keep each other close at heart.
I’m fully present in this journey of motherhood, understanding that my time as “Mommy” is limited. My eldest has even started calling me “Mom” sometimes, a bittersweet reminder of how quickly time passes. I long for the easy conversations with friends and finding a way to plan a bachelorette party for my sister amid the chaos of early bedtimes and 5 a.m. wake-ups.
I genuinely do miss my friendships, yet I find comfort knowing that my life as a mother is not just a part of me but has become enough for this season of my life.
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Summary
The author reflects on the changes in her social life after becoming a mother to two young daughters. Initially overwhelmed by the challenges of parenting, she eventually finds joy in her evolving family dynamics and cherishes the moments spent with her children. Although she misses her friendships, she recognizes that her role as a mom is fulfilling and significant during this fleeting time in her life.