When expecting, it quickly becomes clear that the universe doesn’t revolve around your pregnancy. While you’re navigating those 40 weeks (or more) with water, herbal teas, or creative mocktails that would undoubtedly be better with a splash of gin, life continues around you. Friends throw parties, weddings occur, and cozy nights often involve a bottle of wine. A tad inconsiderate, right? However, being pregnant doesn’t mean you have to forgo your social calendar entirely. There will still be gatherings, dinners, and events to partake in. To stay sane, attending these functions is essential. Yet, some events are far more enjoyable than others while sober. Here are a few of the most notable challenges:
1. Concerts
During my pregnancy, I attended several concerts, including performances by popular artists and festivals. Each experience was unique, influenced by the stage of my pregnancy and who I was with. While you can appreciate live music without alcohol, some events, like major festivals, can feel less exciting without a drink in hand.
2. Football Season and Tailgating
Fall is synonymous with football, and as a fan, I used to relish in the excitement of game days filled with day drinking. The first autumn of my pregnancy was particularly tough, as I longed for a cold beverage while surrounded by cheering fans. Once I adapted to my new reality, things improved, but there are still moments when the temptation to join in on the fun is overwhelming.
3. Bachelorette Parties
Being invited to a bachelorette party while pregnant can be a mixed bag. The idea of partying in a lively city like Las Vegas without the option of a drink seems daunting. At a recent celebration in Chicago, I opted out of the daytime festivities and joined the crew for dinner instead. It was manageable, but being the sober one can often feel isolating. I even hosted a bachelorette party for my sister, filled with activities centered around alcohol. While I found it tedious at first, the people-watching aspect eventually made it bearable.
4. Weddings
Weddings can be tricky territory. I attended several while pregnant, and the enjoyment level often depended on the hosts and guests. Thankfully, I’ve had great friends who know how to throw a celebration, making even sober attendance fun. There are some perks, like indulging in delicious food and desserts, which every expectant mother appreciates. However, being on the dance floor while sober can be the worst, as I become all too aware of my less-than-stellar dance moves.
5. Vacations
The challenge of being sober on vacation varies by destination. For instance, a trip to Puerto Rico was less enjoyable without tropical cocktails, while our babymoon in New York shifted focus to culinary delights rather than bar hopping. Vacations are typically about relaxation, and for many, that includes enjoying a drink or two.
6. Holidays
Celebrating holidays without a drink can feel particularly difficult since they are often centered around festivities and family gatherings. I’ve faced holidays sober, navigating events like the Fourth of July and Halloween. If my pregnancy extends into Thanksgiving, I can only hope to celebrate Christmas with a baby in one hand and a drink in the other. The challenge is heightened when dealing with family dynamics, leaving no excuse for the occasional snarky comment.
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In summary, while being pregnant and sober comes with its unique challenges, it’s important to find joy in the experiences that can still be enjoyed. With a little adjustment, you can navigate social events and celebrations with grace.