I was thrilled to hear about your pregnancy! Welcome to the incredible journey of motherhood! The months ahead will be filled with a mix of joy, fatigue, and a touch of anxiety as you embrace the beautiful, albeit challenging, experience of bringing a new life into the world.
There are some important things I want to share with you now, so my words and actions don’t unintentionally cause you any pain later. First and foremost, I want you to know how deeply I care for you and your little one. I genuinely wish for your baby to be born healthy and for you to relish every moment of this incredible journey.
As you may know, I was pregnant not long ago, but my story took a heartbreaking turn. I understand that I might be seen as a shadow of fear for many expecting mothers, a living reminder that even with the best medical care, tragedy can strike unexpectedly. I know that my experience may bring up uncomfortable feelings, but I share this not to dampen your joy, rather to honor the memory of my own daughter, whose name I cherish.
When I talk about my pregnancy, it’s not to overshadow your experience; it’s simply because I long to celebrate my daughter’s brief life. If I mention topics like monitoring kicks or staying aware of your baby’s movements, please don’t take it as an attempt to frighten you. I bring these up out of a deep-seated concern and a desire to protect you from the kind of pain I’ve endured.
I understand that you’re excited to discuss your birth plan and other joyful topics related to your pregnancy. I had my own birth plan, but it had to change drastically in my desperate attempt to save my daughter. While I may struggle to connect with the importance of a medication-free delivery, please know I truly want to support you through this process.
I want to be honest about my limitations in sharing your joy fully. It’s not that I’m withholding happiness out of spite; rather, I’m navigating my own grief. Your friends and family are showering you with love, and you absolutely deserve every bit of it. Just as you wouldn’t want to imagine losing your child at the moment of birth, I too struggle with the painful reminders of what I’ve lost.
I’m committed to being a supportive friend in the upcoming months. If I say or do something that hurts you, please speak up. At the same time, I hope you can understand that my healing process is important. I may not have living children, but I am still a mother, and my daughter’s memory is just as significant as your soon-to-arrive baby. Let’s share our stories together.
With all my love,
Your Friend and Fellow Mama
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In Summary
While the journey of pregnancy is filled with incredible moments, it can also be a challenge for those of us who have faced loss. Open communication and understanding are key as we navigate our experiences together.