In today’s world, the phrases “children” and “police violence” are becoming increasingly intertwined. As a parent raising three young boys of color in a bustling city, I often find myself grappling with how to approach this delicate subject. Just last week, my son had a positive encounter with law enforcement at a local park where an officer kindly reminded him and his friends about the park’s closing time. But how do I explain to him that not all police officers embody that same kindness? How do I prepare him for the reality that he may be perceived as a threat simply because of his skin color?
The conversations we need to have with our children about police violence can be daunting. Here are four essential points to cover:
1. Not All Officers Are Bad
While the news often focuses on negative incidents, there are many officers who genuinely strive to keep our communities safe. My son’s recent interaction with a caring officer serves as a reminder that there are individuals in law enforcement who are committed to doing good. It’s important to acknowledge this while also maintaining a realistic perspective.
2. Understanding Racism
It’s crucial to discuss the reality of racism with our children. Some individuals harbor biases based solely on skin color, and this prejudice can lead to tragic encounters with law enforcement. It’s imperative that kids recognize the role race plays in the equation of police brutality.
3. It Affects Girls Too
We must include our daughters in these conversations, as police violence affects young girls as well. Remember Sandra, a young girl who was harshly treated by police officers? We cannot ignore the fact that girls of color can also be victims of police aggression. Our sons should learn to advocate for their sisters and understand that this issue spans beyond gender.
4. Start Early
Even though you don’t need to delve into the graphic details of police violence, it’s important to initiate conversations with younger children. They should be prepared for the possibility of witnessing or experiencing police violence before they can fully comprehend it. Early discussions can help them process these experiences as they grow older.
In today’s climate, every parent should engage in these critical conversations with their children. For more insights and support on these topics, feel free to check out one of our other blog posts here.
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Summary:
Discussing police violence with children is challenging but essential. Acknowledge that not all officers are bad, explain the reality of racism, include the experiences of girls, and start these conversations early. Equip your children with the knowledge they need to navigate a complex world.