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This Fifth Grader Deserves a Masterclass on Setting Boundaries
by Laura Mitchell
Updated: Oct. 12, 2020
Originally Published: Sep. 17, 2016
In a world where young girls often find it challenging to assert themselves, one fifth-grade student has taken matters into her own hands. Meet Mia, a young girl who recently became an internet sensation for crafting a bold list of rules to manage a boy’s incessant annoyance at school.
Twitter user Alex Broadcaster shared Mia’s impactful message, which was passed on by a friend teaching fifth grade. Mia decided to lay down the law for a boy named Jake, who apparently doesn’t grasp the concept of personal space or consent. While the exact actions that led to Mia’s frustration remain unclear, her rules undoubtedly make it clear that she’s had enough.
In her creatively illustrated note, Jake is depicted as a stick figure, humorously illustrated with oversized oven-mitt hands, facing the consequences of his behavior through Mia’s meticulously crafted “rules and regulations.” The first rule? “Do not touch my shoulder.” The rest follow suit with increasing specificity and sass.
Mia firmly states, “don’t stand behind me with your antics,” which conveys a clear sense of discomfort. She doesn’t mince words when she expresses her desire to be left alone, emphasizing that Jake should not speak to her unless it’s a simple greeting, which she claims will be “never.”
Additionally, she instructs him not to engage with her on the bus and reminds him of her “short temper,” underlining that she’s not interested in any romantic relationships at her age. Mia acknowledges that his actions have ruined her day and asserts that while he may have feelings for her, she definitely does not reciprocate. She even suggests he reread her list “500 times” to ensure he understands her stance.
The note concludes with a humorous yet serious warning: if Jake doesn’t follow her rules, she’ll call her dad, her mom’s friend, her “fake” mom, and even a “janator” she knows (spelling mistakes aside, her determination shines through). Mia expresses concern that this type of harassment could lead her to counseling, showing she’s clearly thought this through.
To this courageous girl, we say, well done, Mia! Understanding her right to personal boundaries at such a young age is commendable. As someone who grew up trying to please others, especially boys, Mia’s assertiveness brings a tear to my eye.
For too long, many women, including myself, accepted unwanted attention out of fear of hurting someone’s feelings. Now, as I raise my own daughter, I strive to instill in her the confidence to stand up for herself. After experiencing bullying, I dread the thought of her feeling diminished by unkind peers. I can only hope to nurture the self-respect that Mia has clearly demonstrated.
While her words may seem harsh, Mia’s message is crystal clear: if a boy is making her uncomfortable, she owes him no kindness. It’s a powerful lesson that even many adults could benefit from learning.
We wish Mia all the best this school year and hope that Jake takes the hint loud and clear. Young girls have enough to navigate without feeling obligated to tolerate unwanted advances. Every daughter should feel empowered to express what behavior is acceptable.
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Summary:
A fifth-grade girl named Mia has gained attention online for her bold list of rules aimed at a boy who was bothering her. By clearly stating her boundaries and expectations, she serves as an inspiring example of self-advocacy for young girls. Her humorous yet serious approach emphasizes the importance of understanding and respecting personal space, a lesson many adults still need to learn.