In today’s world, where smartphones and social media platforms like Facebook and Instagram dominate our lives, we are snapping more photos than ever before. However, when it comes to preserving memories for our children, how many of those cherished images include us? Often, mothers find themselves behind the lens, missing from the pictures that tell their family’s story.
A touching post by Lisa Hayes, a motivational speaker from Springfield, Missouri, has gone viral, highlighting this issue. She urges fathers to take more pictures of their partners, emphasizing the importance of these memories for their children’s future. “Dear dads,” she writes, “make sure to take the photo… It doesn’t matter what she looks like, or if she says no, just take the photo. You might not think about it often, but it’s crucial.”
It’s true; on those days when moms feel great and are dressed up, you’d expect a photo opportunity to be offered, but if they don’t ask, it often doesn’t happen. “When she’s gone, those photos won’t show your kids the woman who was always behind the camera. Take the photo. Whether she has messy hair, no makeup, or is wearing an old t-shirt, it won’t matter to your children when they look back,” Lisa continues.
While her message is directed at men, it resonates universally. Every family has a designated photographer—the one who captures special moments but rarely appears in them. Yes, kids will appreciate photos of themselves as they grow, but they also want to see their parents in those memories.
Lisa shared with Family Life News that after the passing of her mother, she realized she had very few photographs of her because she was usually behind the camera. Most adults who have lost a parent would agree; they would much prefer a handful of pictures with their loved one rather than a collection of posed holiday images.
One day, we will no longer be here, and those we leave behind will treasure photographs to remember us by. We deserve to be in those moments, whether we’re perfectly made up or lounging in a messy bun. As Lisa poignantly states, “No woman wants to look back at a lifetime of selfies.”
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In summary, it’s essential for parents, especially fathers, to remember the significance of capturing family moments. Whether it’s a candid shot or a posed picture, these images will serve as lasting memories for children, providing a glimpse into the lives of their parents. Let’s ensure that we are not just the photographers but also part of our family’s visual history.