Last school year was nothing short of chaotic for my family. I was nearing my due date with my fourth child while driving my kids to a school located a whopping 25 miles away. Honestly, if there had been a bus option, I would have jumped at the chance to avoid a potential headline: “Mom Gives Birth on the Highway.” Our new home was almost ready, and I thought it best to let my kids settle into their future school community in San Diego without moving them again. I stand by that choice, but as the due date approached, I found myself rarely getting out of the car at drop-off.
After my little one arrived, I continued this trend. The idea of leaving my vehicle was exhausting, akin to being asked to scale a mountain. What do you mean, step out of the car? I was so sleep-deprived that I grew complacent. The comfort of my Chevy Suburban felt like the closest thing to a spa day.
School drop-offs and pickups occurred during my most tired moments of the day. As a result, I didn’t take the opportunity to connect with the other moms—whether they were the athletic ones, the trendy bloggers, or the seasoned veterans of parenting. Turns out, I missed out on something important. If you think you can navigate motherhood alone, you might want to reconsider.
During the Summer Olympics, I kept hearing Maya Angelou’s poem “Human Family” echo between events: “We are more alike, my friends, than we are unalike.” Despite our individual journeys, we share many commonalities. Each of us has faced unique challenges on our path to parenthood—some have dealt with loss, while others have fought fertility battles. Regardless of whether we work outside the home or stay at home, we’ve all made it here. We’re moms, and we truly are more alike than different.
With that in mind, it’s time for us to make an effort to step out of our cars during school drop-offs and connect with one another. Here are four compelling reasons why:
1. Expand Your Support Network
Parenting is a challenge for everyone, whether you’re a stay-at-home mom or a working parent. With two kids in school now, I’m determined to get out of my car and meet these inspiring mothers. Who else is going to share a glass of wine with me or lend a shoulder to cry on? Plus, I appreciate the organized moms who send reminders like “Don’t forget it’s spirit day!” These connections will be invaluable as we navigate this journey together.
2. Offer a Helping Hand
Nobody is perfect, and we all require assistance at times. Living far from my family on the West Coast means that my children’s classmates’ parents have become my extended family. Whether it’s carpooling, sharing insights about teachers, or coordinating for school events, having a network of supportive parents is essential. Plus, I want to be the kind of mom who is known for helping others.
3. Engage with Your Community
Having moved recently and being in survival mode last year, I hardly spoke to anyone. Now, I’m ready to be part of the community and learn about local events. If I hadn’t stepped out of my car today, I wouldn’t have discovered a mom organizing a donation drive for a family in need or a new morning running club for parents and kids. I’m thrilled to be part of this fantastic community!
4. Be a Role Model
While it’s crucial for me to feel good about myself, my children always come first. Missing an early workout is a small price to pay. I want my kids to see my commitment to their school and community, inspiring them to do the same for their future families. Seeing their faces light up when I walk them to class is what matters most right now, and I will cherish this time while I can.
Strapping my baby into the carrier and holding my 4-year-old’s hand during drop-off has also benefited my younger children. Even if they’re not in school yet, it teaches them the importance of family. I’m beginning to see the rewards when I hear them say, “You’re the best, mom.”
If I can manage to park the car three out of five school days, I consider that a win. Whether volunteering in the classroom or simply offering hugs to my little ones, I’m committed to being present. As C.S. Lewis wisely stated, “Children are not a distraction from more important work. They are the most important work.”
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Summary: Connecting with other moms at school drop-offs can significantly enhance your support network, help you offer and receive assistance, and strengthen your community ties. By stepping out of the car, you not only build relationships but also set a positive example for your children. Embracing this moment can lead to meaningful connections that enrich your parenting journey.