Dear Alex,
As summer winds down, I find myself reflecting on how quickly time has passed. I used to eagerly anticipate the start of the school year, counting the days until our regular routine resumed. As a busy doctor, I often felt guilty for not spending those sun-soaked afternoons with you at the pool. I wished away those long summer days, convincing myself that your time in the classroom was more valuable than our moments together.
Sometimes, I worry that I’ve rushed through your childhood. Now, as I watch you prepare to enter your junior year, I want to pause time and savor this moment. Remember how emotional I was on your first day of kindergarten? Watching you climb aboard that yellow bus was a stark reminder that you wouldn’t stay my little boy forever. Your first soccer game stirred something deep within me, like a symbolic passing of the torch. Even to this day, when the national anthem plays at your games, I find myself fighting back tears.
Time is indeed racing forward. It’s hard to believe there are only two more first-day photos left to capture. Soon, you’ll be behind the wheel, and your days of playing lacrosse and soccer will diminish. You might not realize it, but social media is filled with heartfelt “lasts” from parents of high school seniors, each one tugging at my heartstrings. You know I’m not one for big milestones, so I’m certain your senior year will bring on the waterworks.
But we’re not there yet; we have this year—your junior year—a final chance to prepare before the whirlwind of senior year takes hold. Here are a few things I’d love for you to consider in these last weeks of summer as you step into this pivotal year.
1. This Year is Crucial.
There are no do-overs. This year counts significantly for your future. By the time senior year rolls around, college coaches will have made their decisions. Now is the time to invest effort into your grades, sports, and SAT preparation. Train hard on the field, stay focused in class, and collaborate with your test tutor. Remember, there won’t be any second chances; it’s crunch time.
2. Be a Role Model.
Younger kids look up to you now that you’re an upperclassman. Your friends admire you, and your six little cousins see you as their hero. Don’t let them down. Embrace your natural leadership abilities. Be kind, honest, and humble. Strive to be the best version of yourself.
3. Prioritize Family.
I know we might seem like a nuisance at times, but we love you deeply. Keep the lines of communication open with Dad and me; we’re here to support you. Don’t forget to reach out to your grandparents; they cherish the moments you share with them. And cherish your sister—she’ll always be a part of your life.
4. Choose Wisely.
Your adventurous spirit is part of what makes you unique, but it’s essential to be cautious. One poor decision can have lasting consequences. Always remember: don’t drink and drive, and never get into a car with someone who has. Make sound choices, and never hesitate to call me for a ride. And if you choose to become sexually active, please be safe. Birth control is a shared responsibility.
5. Think About Your Future.
While it may seem far off, the time to enter the workforce is closer than you think. Picture your future career—do you see yourself in a corporate office, on a sports field, or out in nature? Identify what you’re passionate about and explore ways to turn that into a career. Your talents can make a difference in the world.
6. Enjoy the Journey.
Embrace this second-to-last year of high school. The pressure is mounting, but it’s not overwhelming just yet. Attend football games, hang out with friends, and indulge in plenty of pizza. The real world will be waiting for you soon enough.
Before you know it, you’ll be stepping out into the world on your own. I hope I’ve provided a solid foundation for you to build your life upon. As you embark on your junior year, remember that your childhood is behind you, and you stand on the brink of adulthood. My dear Alex, you’re on the path to becoming a man.
With all my love,
Mom