Dear Parents,
Hello! I’m Dr. Sarah Thompson, a physician and a proud mother of a remarkable 20-year-old son. Over the past three years, my son has faced numerous health challenges, including 18 hospital visits due to severe Crohn’s disease, persistent infections, and a traumatic brain injury from a skateboarding accident. His journey has been tough but has taught me invaluable lessons I wish to share.
I understand that you may believe every decision you make is for your child’s benefit, but I urge you to reconsider some of these well-intentioned actions. Trust me, I’ve had to make these adjustments myself, and I hope you’ll choose to do the same.
Busy Schedules
First, let’s talk about the busy schedules. Please refrain from overloading your child with endless tennis lessons, piano classes, and other extracurricular activities that their friends are partaking in. Children thrive when they have time to explore, create, and play. Their childhood is fleeting; let them develop their natural curiosity at their own pace. They have time.
Preparing for College
Second, let’s address the obsession with preparing for college. It’s essential to stop this pressure, especially in sixth grade. If higher education is in their future, rest assured they will find their path using their unique talents. They don’t need you to write their college essays or to push them into every advanced placement class available. They have time.
Life Trajectories
Additionally, please let go of the narrative you’ve constructed about your child’s life trajectory. Your kids are not extensions of you; they each have their own paths filled with triumphs and setbacks. Avoid shielding them from failure; instead, let them navigate their experiences. They may get a few scrapes along the way, but those lessons are invaluable. They have time.
Enjoying Childhood
Moreover, allow your children to relish in the joys of childhood. There’s no need to rush them into the responsibilities of adulthood. They will eventually face the same challenges we do, so why not let them enjoy their time as kids? They have time.
Arbitrary Rules and Timelines
Finally, we exist in a world filled with arbitrary rules and timelines. Who dictates when and how our children should progress? It’s crucial to prepare them for the uncertainties of life, where happiness and love are often found amidst chaos. By slowing down and stepping back from the pressures we impose, we grant them the time they need to discover their own paths.
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In summary, let’s take a step back and allow our children the time they need to grow, learn, and thrive at their own pace. They have time.