Being a single mom is a challenging yet rewarding journey that deserves recognition and understanding. While many people acknowledge the tough path of single parenting, not everyone grasps the specific hurdles that come with it. Parenting struggles exist for everyone, whether you are single, in a relationship, or living in a shared environment. Below are some phrases and actions that I, as a single mother, find particularly irksome.
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“Why don’t you bring your little one along? It’ll be fun!”
Fun for who exactly? I certainly won’t enjoy chasing my child while you sip wine and snack on appetizers. While I appreciate your invitation, having my child at social gatherings isn’t my idea of a good time. Have you ever tried to hold a conversation with a wiggly toddler in your arms? I didn’t think so.
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“I don’t know how you manage it.”
Honestly, neither do I. But if you really want to help, watch my child while I take a breather, or treat him to ice cream so I can recharge. Your admiration doesn’t provide me with those moments of peace I crave, like a warm bath or uninterrupted sleep.
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“Have you seen this new film?”
Probably not! I haven’t set foot in a cinema in years. Sure, I could find a babysitter, but that’s for rare outings, not for something like a movie.
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“My partner is such a hassle!”
Are you really telling me this? Unless your partner is neglectful or abusive, I’m not interested in your complaints. I haven’t had a moment alone in two years; spare me the drama about your mildly frustrating husband.
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“Grocery shopping with kids is a nightmare!”
I understand it’s tough, but that’s my everyday reality. You have the option of a partner to help while I navigate this chaos solo.
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“What’s your parenting philosophy?”
Survival. My focus is on meeting my child’s needs and doing my best to love him. I wish I had the luxury of exploring parenting styles, but for now, just keeping us afloat is enough.
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“There’s a great Mommy and Me group coming up!”
Thanks for the suggestion, but those classes are usually scheduled during work hours, which isn’t feasible for a single mom like me trying to make ends meet.
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“You must have support from family or friends.”
Actually, I don’t. I’m often left to handle things on my own. While the initial help may have been there, it usually fades away after a while.
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“It was a couples event.”
I love how my friends use this as an excuse not to include me. I can see the pity in their eyes or the slight discomfort because they don’t want a single mom near their husbands.
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“Don’t worry, Mr. Right will show up!”
Oh, really? Thank you for that insight! I’ll just wait around practicing my cooking skills for someone who may never come. I am a single mom by choice, and I’m not sitting idle waiting for someone to complete my family.
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“I’m so exhausted!”
Really? Exhaustion is a part of life for all parents, but it feels different for single moms. Every single one of us has a unique experience that deserves empathy and understanding.
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In summary, single moms face a myriad of unique challenges that often go unrecognized. A little understanding and genuine support can go a long way, turning frustration into empathy.