One morning, while heading to a local bakery for donuts, my 2-year-old daughter, Lily, decided to launch an impressive tantrum. I had promised her older siblings, Max and Sophie, a treat for their help around the house, but Lily was clearly not on board with the plan. To ensure Max and Sophie didn’t miss out because of their little sister’s outburst, we opted for the drive-thru. As I placed our order, Lily erupted into a fit, yelling, “I want two silly and one mean!” amidst her flailing limbs. Clearly, her vocabulary was limited to her favorite words of rebellion at that moment.
Despite my efforts to sidestep a public meltdown, everyone in the vicinity got an earful. Let’s face it: children will tantrum, whether at home or in a crowded store. It’s 2023, and it’s time to abandon the outdated notion that kids should be seen and not heard. Instead, let’s approach public tantrums with a bit of empathy. Here are some important thoughts to consider:
1. Tantrums Are Normal
Tantrums are a natural aspect of childhood development. I can vouch for this, as all three of my children have had their moments. Even my usually composed daughter, Sophie, was known to lose her cool in public from time to time. These moments didn’t mark her as a “bad” child; instead, they were a part of her growth.
2. Discipline Isn’t the Issue
In my younger years, before I had kids, I naively believed that tantrums stemmed from a lack of discipline. Watching parents deal with their children’s outbursts while I enjoyed a meal was easy to critique. However, I’ve since learned that discipline doesn’t always prevent tantrums; sometimes, kids just need to vent.
3. Every Child Experiences It
Absolutely every child has a tantrum phase. They may struggle to communicate their feelings or simply be having a challenging day. I sometimes wish I could let loose in a similar manner, but instead, I find solace in a glass of wine.
4. No One Enjoys the Situation
Tantrums aren’t enjoyable for anyone involved — not the child, the parents, or bystanders. Just as I don’t relish going for a routine check-up or cleaning up after my pet, tantrums are a part of life we must navigate.
5. Offer Support, Not Judgment
If you witness a child acting out, it’s best to refrain from overstepping. Trying to intervene can exacerbate the situation and frustrate the parents. Most parents are quite capable of handling their children’s behavior without unsolicited advice.
Tantrums are a reality of parenting, especially in public spaces. If you venture out, expect to witness this behavior now and then. Parents would appreciate a little understanding rather than judgmental stares from those who might not grasp the full picture.
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In summary, tantrums are a normal part of child development, and understanding this can lead to a more compassionate society.