As a mother, I often find myself reflecting on how my daughter and I are perceived by others, especially in public spaces like the subway. In those early morning hours, when I’m still waking up, people seem to form their judgments before I’ve even had my coffee. Here are some observations I’ve gathered about the different reactions we encounter.
The Tribal Nod
You can spot these folks in any crowd, and they come in a variety of shades. Their gaze often lingers a moment longer and might even return for a second look. I might receive a friendly nod or a subtle smile from them. My daughter and I likely resonate with their experiences at home, or perhaps they’re simply part of a younger generation that embraces diversity. They see us and think, “Cool,” while I nod back in agreement, thinking, “Word.”
The Feel-Good Liberal Stare
Then there are the well-meaning individuals over 35, often from gentrifying neighborhoods. While I might share some of their progressive values, their expressions can range from hesitant to overly polite, revealing a 70 percent acceptance with a sprinkle of discomfort. They might not be accustomed to seeing families like ours, leaving them a bit taken aback. It’s reminiscent of the mom from one of my daughter’s previous schools who incredulously remarked, “I just can’t believe she’s your child!” Honestly, lady, let’s not make this awkward.
The WTF Smirk
This is where things get a bit more uncomfortable. Typically, it’s an older individual or a newcomer to the city who glances at me and then fixates on my daughter throughout the ride. Their eyes dart between us as they process the situation. The tension rises when they realize I’m not her caregiver. I can almost feel the judgment radiating from them. Some may feel betrayed by what they perceive as a crossing of cultural lines, while others simply look perplexed, as if I’ve disrupted their carefully constructed views on race.
So, how do I handle these reactions without succumbing to curiosity myself? Like any protective mother, I keep my guard up, aware of my surroundings. And if you fall outside my categories, maybe you just think we’re cute—thanks for that! A little bit of kindness goes a long way.
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In summary, the world we navigate as a multiracial family is filled with varied perceptions and reactions. While some may embrace us, others may not know how to respond. The key is to remain confident and open, while also encouraging a culture of understanding and acceptance.
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