I spotted you from the back of the crowded auditorium. We both endured the long stretch of that elementary school awards ceremony, a drawn-out affair meant to celebrate the achievements of our children throughout the year. For two hours, we listened as a seemingly endless list of names echoed through the hall, with a few names called repeatedly, while others, like ours, were left unmentioned.
I noticed how you clapped enthusiastically for every child, even as the same name was announced for the umpteenth time. Your smile shone brightly, but I could see it waver as the minutes dragged on. I imagine my expression mirrored yours as we waited, watching the tally of recognized students grow, all the while hoping our kids would have their moment in the spotlight.
Deep down, we both knew our kids weren’t the top achievers in their classes, nor were they captains of any teams. Yet, we held onto the hope that there would be some acknowledgment—a reason to feel proud of their accomplishments this year.
From where I sat, I saw you glance at your child cheering on their classmates, hands empty. I witnessed you quickly brush away a tear, and my heart ached for you. We’re caught in this gray area, both of us, navigating the tug-of-war between two perspectives. One side insists, “Every child deserves recognition,” while the other argues, “The world is a tough place; we must earn our rewards.”
We understand both viewpoints, yet we find ourselves in the middle. Those children who received awards undoubtedly deserve their recognition—they put in the work, and their parents have every right to be proud.
But we should hold our heads high as well. While our children might return home without trophies, feeling a bit embarrassed or excluded, there are still numerous reasons to celebrate their year.
Consider the small, yet significant victories:
- He always showed up when it was difficult.
- She often shared her lunch with a friend who had none.
- He was the one to comfort classmates who felt down.
- She poured her heart into that project like never before.
- He invited everyone in class to his party, even that one kid who is often overlooked.
- She is that overlooked kid, yet she didn’t give up.
We must ensure our children understand that their efforts this year are valid and worthy of celebration. The world can be harsh, and it wears on our spirits. We need more individuals who are compassionate, kind, and determined to improve the world around them.
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In summary, while awards and accolades matter, the true essence of achievement lies in the small acts of kindness and resilience that our children display every day. Let’s celebrate those moments and remind them of their worth.