As I strolled across the university campus with my husband, James, both of us in our mid-30s, I couldn’t help but notice how out of place we felt amidst the throngs of vibrant 18- to 22-year-olds. Their youthful exuberance, clad in summer attire, contrasted sharply with our more conservative appearance. I felt a touch of nostalgia for my own college days, realizing that our pace was decidedly slower, as if we were savoring a rare moment of shared solitude while they rushed off to their next engagement.
This semester marks the end of James’s academic journey; after nearly five years of juggling responsibilities, he is finally completing his degree at the college where I am employed as a physician. While most of his studies were online, the final stretch brought him to campus for face-to-face classes, creating an opportunity for us to sneak in some quality time amidst our busy schedules.
Thanks to a kind friend from our church who watches our kids, James and I now have precious snippets of time together—sometimes just an hour, other times merely 15 minutes—where we can walk hand-in-hand, discussing life and enjoying each other’s company without interruptions.
Reflecting on our marriage, I never envisioned it would unfold in this manner. My upbringing didn’t provide a clear picture of a successful union; my parents divorced when I was young, leaving me to discover love and partnership on my own terms. Yet here we are, over a decade into our marriage, cherishing these fleeting moments of calm amidst the chaos of parenting.
Life with young children is a whirlwind of responsibilities—balancing careers, education, and family life can be overwhelming. We often find ourselves in disagreements over sleep deprivation, budget constraints, and navigating the challenges of parenthood. However, in these quiet walks, we reconnect as a couple, sharing insights and laughter, much like two college students discovering each other anew.
As we wandered, we occasionally discussed our children, my work, or his classes. I offered him tips on maneuvering through campus life, while he playfully suggested I fix my shirt collar. It struck me that we may have appeared outdated to the students around us, who are often quick to point out my lack of familiarity with social media trends. In those moments, it’s tempting to share the beauty of our recent walk together, free from the usual chaos—no tantrums or bickering, just the two of us enjoying a glass of cool water after a long day. Yet, I recognize that it’s a sentiment that likely wouldn’t resonate with them, just as I wouldn’t have understood it at their age.
What sets us apart on this college campus is the profound appreciation we have for simple moments of solitude. Our values have shifted; now, the essence of our relationship lies in finding joy in being together rather than chasing fleeting trends or appearances. This realization often leads to a deeper understanding of what truly matters in a marriage.
After our walk, I escorted James back to our minivan parked beside an imposing pickup truck and a sleek sports car. We shared a kiss, and I couldn’t help but express my gratitude. “Thanks for the walk; it was the best part of my day,” I said, my tone tinged with irony about returning to work. But the truth was, those moments together are what I cherish most.
James smiled and replied, “Anytime. I love you,” and we shared another kiss, lingering a little longer since the kids weren’t around to giggle at us. As we pulled apart, I caught sight of a couple of students watching us, perhaps bemused by two “older” individuals sharing an affectionate moment. I offered them a half-smile, silently conveying, “One day, you’ll understand.”
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In summary, the beauty of marriage lies in the little moments of togetherness—whether it’s a walk across campus or a shared conversation. These instances remind us that love grows deeper with time, transforming our priorities and enriching our lives in ways we never anticipated.