When I first heard from various sources, including my child’s preschool instructor, that it might be wise to delay my son’s entrance to kindergarten by a year—commonly referred to as “redshirting”—I was initially puzzled.
My son celebrated his fifth birthday just in time for kindergarten. Isn’t that the age when kids typically start school? True, he was on the younger side: he struggled with attention during preschool activities, his handwriting was less than legible, and he showed little interest in reading. But I couldn’t help but wonder what was so challenging about kindergarten these days.
Reflecting on my own kindergarten experience in the late 1970s, I remember a classroom filled with toys, a giant slide, and plenty of playtime. We had half-day sessions where we spent most of our time engaging in games, building with blocks, and listening to stories during nap time.
However, a bit of research quickly revealed that kindergarten has evolved dramatically. Articles about how kindergarten now resembles the “new first grade” (or even second grade) flooded my reading list. Conversations with parents of older children and my growing concerns about the rigorous standards set by the Common Core opened my eyes to a new reality.
I used to view parents who chose to hold their children back as simply trying to gain an unfair advantage. They aimed to make their children appear smarter, more athletically gifted, or more mature, potentially paving the way for future academic success. But I’ve come to understand that many of these parents are motivated by a desire to preserve their child’s early years before they face an education system that often demands too much of them. Research supports the notion that pushing young children into academics too soon can lead to negative outcomes such as lower self-esteem, anxiety, and poor academic performance.
It’s important to recognize that children develop at their own pace. Just like physical milestones—my daughter walked at 15 months while a friend’s child hit that milestone at 9 months—literacy skills also vary. Research indicates that whether kids learn to read early or late, they tend to reach similar levels of proficiency eventually.
Deciding whether today’s kindergarten is the right fit for your child is a personal choice that only you can make. Here are several considerations to help you through this decision:
- Look into Transitional Programs: Many communities offer transitional kindergarten or “Young Fives” programs designed for children who may not be ready for the conventional kindergarten experience. These programs often focus on social skills and foundational literacy, with less intense academic demands.
- Explore Half-Day Options: Check if nearby schools offer half-day kindergarten programs. Charter and private schools might also provide shorter schedules. Don’t let costs deter you; many private institutions offer financial assistance to families.
- Consider Homeschooling: While this may not be feasible for all families, some parents choose to keep their children home for a year before starting kindergarten. This can allow for a more customized learning pace and experience.
- Understand School Expectations: Investigate what the kindergarten curriculum entails. Are there homework assignments? What is the teacher-to-student ratio? Many educators are increasingly acknowledging the need for more playtime and less homework for young learners.
- Advocate for Change: If you have the privilege to explore different options, you are fortunate. Many parents lack this flexibility. Becoming involved in advocacy groups can help push for necessary changes in educational policies that better align with the developmental needs of children.
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Summary
It’s perfectly acceptable if your five-year-old isn’t ready for kindergarten. Understanding your child’s unique development pace and considering alternatives like transitional programs, half-day schools, or even homeschooling can help make the right choice. Advocacy for educational reform is also vital, ensuring that the learning environment is appropriate for young children.