When we think about wedding customs, many of us find ourselves puzzled by certain traditions. What exactly is the function of a matron of honor? Why do children play a part in delivering wedding rings? And what’s with the rice throwing? While those who have tied the knot may have the answers at their fingertips, those of us who prefer a more casual approach to matrimony might wonder, “Why all the fuss?”
One thing is universally acknowledged: being a bridesmaid isn’t the most enviable position. As a child, you may have daydreamed about donning a beautiful dress and sharing in the joy of a wedding. However, reality often hits hard when faced with the costs of an outfit you’ll likely never wear again, along with matching accessories and shoes. Your initial excitement may swiftly turn to the realization that this role is not only costly but also a bit of a chore.
The bridesmaid’s attire is often a source of contention. While it seems we are gradually moving toward styles that can be repurposed, this certainly wasn’t the case during the six weddings I participated in. The dresses were lovely, in theory, but let’s be honest: who really wears taffeta again? The answer is simple: No one.
Interestingly, there’s a historical basis for the custom of bridesmaids wearing matching outfits, and it’s a tad unsettling. According to The Dessy Group, the Western tradition of bridesmaids dates back to Roman law, which mandated that ten witnesses be present at weddings to ward off evil spirits believed to disrupt ceremonies. To confuse these malevolent forces, bridesmaids and ushers would wear identical clothing to that of the bride and groom, creating a visual distraction. Essentially, the bridal party was tasked with intercepting any curses aimed at the couple, allowing them to exchange vows uninterrupted.
So, it appears that the wedding party has always had a bit of a rough deal. It’s just tradition, I suppose. For further insights into various aspects of fertility and family planning, check out this article from our other blog. If you’re interested in exploring self-insemination options, resources like Cleveland Clinic offer excellent guidance. Additionally, for those considering home insemination methods, the authority on the subject, Make a Mom, is worth a visit.
In summary, while the role of bridesmaid may seem glamorous from the outside, historical context reveals a much more complex and less appealing reality. The traditions surrounding weddings can often lead to unexpected expenses and discomfort for those involved.