As a medical professional and a father of three, I’ve seen firsthand how important it is to support your partner during pregnancy. Reflecting on my past interactions, I’ve compiled a list of things I wish I hadn’t said. Hopefully, this can help some future dads navigate this life-changing journey with more empathy.
1. “I don’t get why you’re so exhausted.”
Seriously? You must be kidding yourself. The reality is, your partner is nurturing a new life, which is an incredibly demanding task. While you may feel fatigue from work, it pales in comparison to the energy it takes to grow a human. Instead of questioning her feelings, just acknowledge her exhaustion. It’s a monumental endeavor.
2. “Every time I see your belly, I feel anxious.”
It’s natural to feel apprehensive about becoming a parent, but your partner is likely feeling just as overwhelmed. Instead of focusing on your fears, try to be a source of strength. Pregnancy brings a whirlwind of emotions for both partners; instead of leaning on her for reassurance, provide support and embrace the excitement of this new chapter.
3. “What’s with the tears?”
You might not experience the emotional rollercoaster she’s riding, but that doesn’t mean her feelings aren’t valid. Hormonal changes can lead to intense emotions, and instead of dismissing her tears, offer a hug or ask how you can help. Recognizing her feelings is crucial, rather than assuming she should just toughen up.
4. “It’s late. Do we really need to go for snacks?”
Remember that late-night cravings are a genuine part of pregnancy. Your comfort might be tempting, but when your partner craves something specific, it’s worth the effort to fulfill that need. Get up and grab those late-night tacos without complaint; it shows you care and are in this together.
5. “You’re being so hormonal; it’s hard to deal with.”
Acknowledging that pregnancy brings about emotional changes is one thing, but calling it out as a flaw is another. This perspective is not only unhelpful but can be harmful. Instead of reacting with annoyance, respond with empathy. After all, the only real issue here is the incredible life developing inside her. Approach her feelings with compassion, and remind yourself that you’re a team.
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Summary
Supporting your pregnant partner requires understanding and empathy. Avoid making dismissive statements about her feelings, and instead, focus on being a supportive teammate throughout this journey.