Updated: August 6, 2023
Originally Published: March 11, 2023
My Beloved Second Child,
As your arrival approached, I found myself reflecting on my experiences with family and friends, sharing stories and laughter. I had convinced myself that transitioning to a life with two children would leave me feeling like a hermit, holed up at home. But the reality was quite different. While welcoming you into our family was a challenge, we adjusted quickly, and soon enough, we were venturing out—primarily for essentials like nipple cream and pain relief. But it hasn’t all been smooth sailing.
At just 11 months old, I realize I’ve raised you quite differently than your older sibling, Jack. I felt it was important to pen this letter now so that in the future, you’ll understand I recognize these differences. Please take a moment to read this, knowing that I love you dearly.
I’m sorry for the time I dropped you. Yes, I did. One moment you were peacefully napping on my chest, and the next—splat! You rolled off the bed. I worried more than you did; you cried for a bit, then quickly flashed that adorable smile of yours. To defend my actions, our bed was a bit cramped with your father and Jack joining us, and I was utterly exhausted from sleepless nights of nursing you. I even considered having a custom-made suit for you, like a flying squirrel, but we opted for a larger bed instead.
I apologize for not knowing as many details about your early days. Jack’s baby book is filled with every little milestone—each giggle, sneeze, and coo meticulously documented. I was a bit of a maniac, jotting everything down. Today, as I dashed to help Jack with a little mishap, I turned around to find you standing up, gripping the Swiffer for balance. How did I miss that you’re already a little acrobat?
When you look back at your baby book years from now, you might see a note reading, “Insert photo here.” It’s a reminder that I was too busy loving you and managing Jack’s antics to document every little thing.
I’m sorry for the times I allowed Jack to get a little too close for comfort, including that one unfortunate incident in the bathtub where he accidentally sprayed you. I can’t defend his behavior entirely; he often acts as if you’re invisible, bumping into you when you’re crawling or snatching toys from your hands. Yet somehow, you find amusement in his antics and follow him around like a little shadow. I do my best to correct him and encourage hugs and kisses, but for now, we’re plotting our little comebacks together. Like when Jack gets an icy pop, you give it a thorough lick before he gets his hands on it, just to keep him on his toes.
I’m sorry for the fashion choices you’ve been dealt. While Jack had all new, stylish outfits, you often sport his old clothes, which might explain why you always look a bit ragged. Getting two kids ready for an outing feels like a chaotic race, and I often arrive at our destination only to realize you’re sporting a rather interesting ensemble, complete with remnants of lunch stuck to your face. If “hobo chic” ever becomes a trend, you’ll be the poster child!
But perhaps this is a lesson for you. One day, you might wonder why your outfits are often stained with food, but remember, it’s not the clothes that define you—it’s your cheerful spirit, and you embody that completely.
I’m sorry if you ever feel like you’re loved less. I know that some might claim the second child receives less affection, but let me assure you—that’s simply untrue. I’ve loved you fiercely since the moment the doctor placed you in my arms. It’s possible to love deeply, over and over again, and I would give anything for you and Jack without hesitation. My love for you is as strong as my love for him, and that will never change.
I may have dropped you, forgotten to document your milestones, let a little pee fly, and dressed you a bit haphazardly, but know that my love for you is unwavering and abundant. You will never hear an apology for that.
With all my love,
Mom
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Summary
This heartfelt letter conveys a mother’s sincere apologies to her second child for the differences in parenting approaches compared to the first child. She humorously recounts her experiences, including moments of forgetfulness and mishaps, while reaffirming her boundless love for her child.