During my pregnancies, I experienced significant weight gain—far beyond what medical guidelines suggested. While my non-pregnant self was active and slim, my pregnant self saw the scale climb steadily. After welcoming three children in just four years, I found myself gaining and losing around 70 pounds each time. Each OB appointment felt like a countdown to a lecture about my monthly weight increases, and my emotions fluctuated as dramatically as my weight.
I longed to appreciate my pregnant body. I wanted to cherish this fleeting chapter of my life, sharing my body with another soul. However, as my figure expanded and my skin stretched, my confidence took a hit. The sight of a camera filled me with dread; I often found myself retreating to the back of group photos and declining my partner’s attempts to capture moments of my pregnancy.
I remember the well-meaning advice from a dear friend: “Be sure to take pictures of yourself while you’re expecting,” she said. “Your kids will love to see them someday.” Like much of the unsolicited guidance I received, I brushed off her suggestion.
Now, as my youngest approaches three, it’s clear I should have listened to that kind friend. Whether it’s the bittersweet feeling of closing the chapter on having more children or my admiration for how radiant other expectant mothers look, I wish I could revisit that time and take photos of my pregnant self. Perhaps I even would have indulged in one of those popular maternity photo shoots. I wouldn’t let vanity keep me from documenting this special time.
Fortunately, my partner, knowing me better than I know myself, secretly captured a moment of me at nine months pregnant with our second child while we waited for a carousel ride. That photograph now sits framed on his desk, and I cherish it. When I look at it, I don’t see the weight I gained or the water retention—I see love.
So, if I may share a piece of unsolicited advice with you: don’t shy away from the camera. Capture images of your pregnant self, even when self-doubt creeps in. Those photos will be invaluable memories of this unique period in your life, aside from hazy recollections.
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In summary, embrace your pregnancy journey, capture those moments on camera, and seek out resources that support you along the way.