Congratulations! Your child has made the leap to wearing underwear! No more diapers to buy, no more wrestling squirming toddlers to change, and no more packing like you’re embarking on a monthlong journey every time you head out. The terrifying public restroom changes and backseat diaper swaps are now behind you.
You’ve successfully navigated the challenges of potty training: sticker charts, messy accidents, bribery, and the emotional rollercoaster of taking breaks and restarting when things get tough. It’s a relief to close that chapter, right? Wrong. For those of us who have moved past diapers, we know that potty training is just the beginning of a whole new set of challenges.
Here are some realities that you might not have expected:
- Constant Bathroom Companionship
You might think that once they’re out of diapers, your child will naturally go to the bathroom when needed. Unfortunately, many kids require reminders for years, and they often prefer company, especially when it comes to pooping. - The Public Restroom Nightmare
If you thought changing diapers in a public restroom was bad, brace yourself for the experience of having your child use those unsanitary toilets. The thought alone is enough to make any parent cringe. - Comfort with Caregivers
Kids can become overly comfortable with their parents helping them in the bathroom. This can create awkward moments when they resist assistance from other caregivers. Trust me, it’s an intimate process—yet sometimes you just need a break! - Accidents at School
There’s a reason schools ask for a change of clothes for preschool and kindergarten kids. Even older children can have accidents, especially when they’re busy or in a classroom setting. They often don’t realize how long they should wait. - The Infamous “Potty Dance”
My youngest sometimes does “the potty dance,” which is amusing yet frustrating. Despite repeated questioning, they may adamantly deny needing to go even while performing their little jig. - Nighttime Accidents
Just because they’re potty trained during the day doesn’t mean they’re ready at night. Many kids continue to need pull-ups or mattress protectors for years, and this can be quite the hassle. - Long-term Assistance
You’ll soon realize just how long you’ll be wiping your child’s bottom after they’ve been potty trained. Many parents report needing to assist for several years—definitely not what you signed up for! - Aim Issues
Boys, in particular, seem to have a knack for missing the toilet, resulting in puddles that appear mysteriously. When questioned, they remain staunchly innocent. - Hand-Washing Challenges
Getting kids to wash their hands properly is another hurdle. If they do try, expect a water mess and a soap shortage. Supervision will be your new norm. - Car Emergencies
No matter how many times you ask if they need to go before a car trip, there’s bound to be a moment when a child urgently needs the bathroom—often right when you can’t stop.
On a positive note, things do improve over time. I can’t recall the last time I had to remind my older child to use the restroom, and he manages public restrooms quite well—though I still have to coax him into washing his hands correctly. My younger one has just started potty training and, fingers crossed, seems to be handling it well.
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In summary, potty training is just the start of a long and winding journey full of surprises, challenges, and occasional accidents. While you may think you’re done with diapers, the reality is that your child’s bathroom habits will continue to require your attention for years to come.