Let’s be honest: my son seems to favor my partner, Lisa, over me. Yes, he’s definitely a mama’s boy. It’s quite normal for young ones to gravitate towards their mothers after spending nearly a year in utero and then relying on them for nourishment. He’s not even two yet, so I’m not too worried he’ll develop into a future psychological thriller character—at least not yet.
While I understand the reasons behind his preference for Lisa, it doesn’t mean it doesn’t sting occasionally. But every cloud has a silver lining.
Parenting is undoubtedly a team effort. Little ones require all hands on deck, and having another adult around can be a lifesaver, especially with a toddler who constantly needs assistance. My partner and I are fortunate to share the responsibilities of raising our son, and we make a concerted effort to divide the tasks.
In our daily routine, we alternate responsibilities. One morning, I’ll wake up with him, even if his cries for Mommy are loud and clear. The next day, it’ll be Lisa’s turn, even if he throws me a bone with a half-hearted “Daddy.” Changing diapers, bath time, and bedtime stories are all part of our rotation. It keeps things manageable.
As he grows and starts to express his preferences, he sometimes insists that only one person can brush his teeth. Guess who’s usually relegated to the sidelines? Yes, it’s typically Lisa who gets that honor. When I go to pick him up for the bedtime routine and he reacts with a dramatic retreat and screams, it’s tough on my ego. It hurts, but I’ve learned to cope.
The bright side? I get to enjoy some well-deserved downtime. If Lisa is the chosen one for the evening rituals, I can kick back. “Oh, Daddy’s not your favorite tonight? No problem,” I think as I pour myself a drink and catch up on the game while Lisa handles everything from tooth brushing to story time. Maybe I’ll even indulge in another drink to drown out my wounded pride. Sure, my feelings take a hit, but really—who needs pride when there’s relaxation to be had?
You might assume that this dynamic would frustrate Lisa, and you’d be right. However, we both recognize that this favoritism is just a fleeting phase. There will be nights when only I can soothe our son or tuck him in, and at those times, Lisa will relish her well-earned moment of peace with a glass of wine, perhaps even reflecting on the last time she enjoyed a quiet evening.
In the meantime, I brush off my minor grievances and she navigates her annoyance with grace, both of us understanding that this too shall pass. Parenthood is about teamwork, and even though it can be challenging to endure our toddler’s whims, we know that in just a few years, he won’t be favoring either of us. Instead, he’ll likely express his disdain for us equally!
For now, we lean on each other, trading off responsibilities and enjoying the small victories and defeats together, secure in the knowledge that one day, our sweet boy will grow up and realize that love isn’t about favorites; it’s about family.
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Summary
In the humorous and sometimes painful reality of parenthood, feeling like the less favored parent can sting, but it also offers moments of unexpected relaxation and partnership. As parents, we take turns with responsibilities while navigating the emotional landscape of our little one’s preferences, knowing these phases are temporary. Together, we embrace the rollercoaster of parenting, preparing for the day our child will appreciate us both equally.