For over a decade, my life revolved around the whirlwind of parenting—nurturing babies, changing diapers, and reading bedtime stories. Suddenly, it seems like I blinked, and my kids transformed into independent beings. The transition was so gradual that I hardly noticed it happening. I don’t recall the last time I held a sleeping baby or how it felt to nurse during the night. What I do know is that now, every shoe in my house either fits me or is way too big, and my husband and I no longer share our bed with little ones.
While I have embraced this new chapter, there are several habits from my parenting days that I really need to adjust:
- Finishing Their Leftovers
In the past, salvaging bits of food from my kids’ plates was essential for survival, especially during chaotic mealtimes. But now that they are older, it’s not only unnecessary but a little unappealing to finish their pasta or pizza scraps. - Wearing Worn-Out Pajamas
During the years of late-night feedings and morning messes, comfy old T-shirts and yoga pants became my go-to attire. However, I’ve realized that I can now wear something a bit more presentable to bed, as my days of dealing with spit-up and toddler messes are behind me. - Leaving Space in Bed
For years, my husband and I kept part of our bed open for our little ones who would often join us during the night. With the kids now sleeping in their own rooms, we have the freedom to sprawl out. Yet, we still find ourselves snuggled close together. Maybe this is one habit worth keeping! - Listening to Kids’ Music in the Car
In the past, I endured countless sing-alongs to children’s music—my firstborn had a particular fondness for the soundtrack of Oklahoma. But now that the kids can choose their own music, I can happily switch the radio to my favorite station without fear of a tantrum in the backseat. - Hiding Vegetables
For years, I’ve been sneaking greens into meals, from pasta sauces to smoothies. But my kids are older now and can handle the truth about their food. It’s time to stop the charade—yes, that is spinach! - Taking Over Their Tasks
My children are more than capable of helping with household chores, yet I often find myself stepping in when they struggle with tasks like loading the dishwasher or making their beds. I need to remember that they can handle these responsibilities without my intervention.
Despite these changes, one thing has remained constant: my fascination with my children. I used to marvel at their tiny fingers and the sweetness of their giggles, and that awe has only deepened as they grow. They may not smell like baby soap anymore, but they still take my breath away. I once thought I would miss the days of little ones, but parenting older kids brings its own joys—just as magical, just as delightful.
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In summary, as I navigate life with older children, I’m learning to let go of certain habits while still cherishing the incredible bond I share with them.