I just heard the wonderful news that you’re expecting a baby girl! Your mother, my aunt, was absolutely thrilled. When I learned of your pregnancy, I was transported back to our childhood days at the beach. I can still picture us, around 3 and 4 years old, lying on our stomachs in the sand, our heads propped up on our hands, with your bright blonde hair contrasting against my dark locks. Those carefree days of laughter and play feel like just yesterday.
As the years have gone by, we’ve taken different paths—I’ve been in the countryside while you’ve been in a bustling suburb. Despite our moms’ best efforts to keep us close, distance and time have played their parts. But in my heart, I still see us as those little girls by the shore. Now that you’re about to embark on the remarkable journey of motherhood, I feel that familiar protective instinct kicking in as your older cousin.
Here are some insights I wish I had received when I was expecting:
- Savor Your Last Months of Freedom
While you will have those quiet moments again, they will feel different. When your baby arrives, you will find yourself longing for the solitude that once felt ordinary. Use this time for movies, reading, and relaxing baths. You may not find as much time for yourself once your little one is here. - Prioritize Time With Your Partner
The arrival of a baby changes everything, even your relationship with your partner. I remember feeling a sense of loss for the time we had together before our son came along, even when he was right there with me. Open communication and spending quality time together before the baby arrives can strengthen your bond. - Don’t Overwhelm Yourself with Parenting Books
Towards the end of my first pregnancy, I became obsessed with reading every parenting book I could find. I ended up feeling confused and overwhelmed. While it’s good to gather some knowledge, trust your instincts—every child is different, and you’ll soon discover what works best for you. - Have a Birth Plan, but Stay Open-Minded
It’s essential to have an idea of how you want your childbirth experience to unfold; however, flexibility is key. Sometimes, unexpected situations arise, and being too attached to a rigid plan can lead to disappointment. I’ve seen friends feel guilty when things didn’t go as planned because they were too focused on their original vision. - Pack a Hospital Bag for Yourself
While everyone reminds you to pack a bag, I found myself overpacking for the baby and neglecting my own needs. Make sure to include warm socks, your favorite snacks, and personal items like a robe and comfortable pajamas. And don’t forget a nursing tank or sports bra. Allow yourself grace; your body will need time to adjust after giving birth. - Trust Yourself to Find Your Path
You’ll receive a wealth of advice from various sources, but remember, what works for others may not work for you. Every parenting journey is unique, and you’ll discover your own way, just as we all do. Know that I’m here for you if you need support.
I’m beyond excited for you to embrace motherhood, and I can’t wait to see our little girls play together. I still hold that cherished photo from our beach days, and I’d love to recreate a similar moment with our daughters. They will be just two years apart, almost mirroring our own age gap. Until then, I wish you all the best as you prepare for your sweet baby girl.
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Warm wishes and congratulations again!