In the year following my separation, an intriguing term has resurfaced in conversations with friends and even in discussions with potential partners: “empowered.” Initially, I was uncertain about how to embrace this label. When I envision someone empowered, I picture a confident individual who is fiercely independent—maybe adorned in bold colors and exuding charisma. But as a 34-year-old suburban mom of two, juggling meal plans and enforcing a strict bedtime, the term seemed far from fitting.
However, when many people share a perspective about you, it may be time to take notice and own it. I’ve grown to appreciate this characterization. Do you resonate with this label too? Take a moment to acknowledge your strength. Here are 12 signs that you are an empowered single mom:
- You Face Challenges Head-On.
You may not feel confident every single day, and that’s perfectly okay. A quote I remind myself of is Anne Lamott’s assertion that “courage is fear that has said its prayers.” It’s normal to have fears, but you know deep down that you can handle whatever life throws at you. - You Get Things Done.
From taking out the trash to ensuring bills are paid on time, you manage the myriad tasks that keep your household running smoothly—all on your own. - You Define Your Worth.
Your self-esteem doesn’t hinge on others’ opinions. You strive to outdo your past self instead of competing with those around you. The judgments of your ex or the opinions of friends do not dictate your value. - You Live Life on Your Terms.
You prioritize what truly matters to you, unapologetically. If healthy meals for your family are paramount, you focus on that while letting go of other trivial concerns, like whether your kids’ outfits match. - You Prioritize Self-Care.
Whether it’s saying no to social events to enjoy some downtime or allocating funds for a gym membership, you understand that caring for yourself is essential for caring for your children. There’s no need to feel guilty about taking time for you. - You Thrive Independently.
You manage laundry, lunches, doctor’s appointments, and weekend errands without needing another adult’s help. You’ve adapted to the challenges and responsibilities of single parenting with grace. - You Stand Firm.
In discussions with attorneys or negotiations with your ex, you assert yourself. Your children also recognize your authority and the importance of the values you uphold at home. - You’ve Grown Stronger Post-Divorce.
The lessons learned through your experiences have fortified you. You’ve emerged from your past with newfound strength and gratitude for the journey that led you here. - You Celebrate Your Successes.
From mastering a new hobby to achieving professional milestones, you acknowledge your accomplishments and take pride in your hard work without downplaying your achievements. - You Share Your Truth.
You’re open about your feelings, even during tough times. Honesty about your struggles fosters deeper connections, allowing you to be authentic in a world where appearances can be deceiving. - You Refuse to be a Victim.
Regardless of the circumstances surrounding your divorce, you choose not to see yourself as a victim. Recognizing that heartbreak can be a catalyst for growth allows you to move forward with resilience. - You Demand the Respect You Deserve.
After navigating difficult relationships, you’re now skilled at recognizing when someone doesn’t value you. You insist on being treated with the love and respect you are worthy of, paving the way for a brighter future.
This article originally appeared on a blog focused on empowering single mothers.
In summary, being an empowered single mom is about recognizing your strength, maintaining your self-worth, and embracing your unique journey. It’s essential to prioritize self-care, celebrate your successes, and demand respect in all aspects of your life. For more information on home insemination and pregnancy resources, visit this excellent resource or check out this detailed guide for insights on at-home insemination kits. For privacy concerns, please refer to our privacy policy.