When it comes to conversations with kids, discussing “privates” ranks pretty low on the list of enjoyable topics. Trust me, I’d much rather talk about the latest superhero movie or the intricacies of dinosaurs than delve into the world of male anatomy. But as a parent, it’s a discussion that inevitably arises, especially when you have a little boy.
One day, my son, Leo, decided to show off his anatomy during a bathroom break at school. Just as a teacher walked in, there was my son, blissfully unaware of the chaos he was causing. His teacher, principal, and even his usually laid-back mom were all in a frenzy. Suddenly, we found ourselves in the middle of a parent-teacher meeting to discuss appropriate behavior and boundaries.
I understand the importance of teaching Leo about privacy. It’s a fundamental lesson that can help him navigate life without facing unnecessary troubles. After this incident, I realized it was time for another talk about what’s acceptable regarding his privates.
The Talk
Me: Leo, do you know what a penis is?
Leo: No.
Me: What do you call your privates?
Leo: Uh, my privates.
Me: And what else?
Leo: My peep.
Me: Right! Just like how we say “toots” instead of farts, “peep” is a nicer term for “penis.” Can you say “penis”?
Leo: Pee-nis.
Me: Perfect! Now, do you remember what happened at school?
Leo: Yes.
Me: What did you do?
Leo: I didn’t follow directions.
Me: Correct! And what exactly happened?
Leo: I did unpublic things.
Me: Unpublic?
Leo: Yeah.
Me: What “unpublic” thing did you do?
Leo: I showed my privates.
Me: Why did you do that?
Leo: Everyone was goofing around.
Me: Just you, then?
Leo: Yeah.
Me: Great. Can you tell me when it’s okay to take your penis out?
Leo: Ummm… when I go potty?
Me: Yes! And when else?
Leo: When I’m taking a bath.
Me: Exactly! There’s one more time.
Leo: When?
Me: When you’re changing your clothes.
Leo: Oh, okay!
Me: Now, why shouldn’t you show your penis to others?
Leo: I don’t know.
Me: Because it’s private. Just like ears help you listen, your privates are just for you. If I showed mine, I’d go to jail.
Leo: That’s bad!
Me: Yes! So who can you show your penis to?
Leo: Just me, right?
Me: That’s right! And if someone asks you to show it, what do you do?
Leo: Don’t do it!
Me: Great job, Leo! Are you going to show anyone your penis again?
Leo: No! I promise!
So, hopefully, Leo has learned his lesson and will keep his privates private moving forward. It’s a delicate topic, but as parents, we must ensure our children understand boundaries and respect for themselves and others.
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In summary, open conversations about body privacy are essential in raising well-adjusted children. While it may be uncomfortable, addressing these topics can help prevent future mishaps.