In today’s world, flooded with Facebook posts, Pinterest ideas, and sensational headlines, the question of how to parent can feel overwhelming. Defining what kind of mother you aspire to be has become more complex than simply wanting to be “a good one.” The internet has birthed a plethora of extreme parenting styles, each with catchy labels designed to draw you in. You’re not just a laid-back parent; you’re a free-range mom. If you’re a stickler for rules, you might find yourself labeled a tiger mom. But what about those of us who reside in the less glamorous middle ground, without an eye-catching title to represent our approach?
It’s time to start a new movement that embraces the ordinary in parenting. This approach may not make headlines or land book deals, but it could resonate with the majority of us who don’t subscribe to rigid parenting philosophies or extreme measures. So, let’s unite as Moderation Mothers—those of us who are doing our best in the midst of chaos.
Moderation might not be thrilling or filled with quick fixes. In fact, it’s often seen as dull. Yet, in a society that craves the sensational, moderation is frequently overlooked. While extreme parenting styles may attract attention, they often don’t reflect the reality of most parents, who are simply trying to navigate the daily grind. I’m a proponent of moderate parenting. I engage my children in learning—letters, numbers, art—but I also embrace the occasional quiet moment with a “screen babysitter.” I prioritize healthy eating but don’t hesitate to indulge in fast food when I need a breather. At the playground, I adopt a hands-off approach, allowing my older son to solve conflicts independently, stepping in only when necessary.
Most parents share a common goal: wanting the best for their children. However, achieving this ideal often requires a significant investment of time, energy, and resources—something many of us struggle to maintain. Some days, simply getting through the day is an achievement in itself. My children’s toys are mostly organized, but not perfectly, and while I cherish their artwork, I’m guilty of neglecting to store it away neatly. My photo albums are sadly out of date, with only a few snapshots displayed since my youngest was born. I wish I could create meticulously organized baby books, but everyday tasks like laundry and dishes often take precedence over such endeavors.
Motherhood itself is an intense journey, marked by profound changes to your body, mind, and relationships. You are responsible for nurturing, educating, and loving a human being—not just until they reach a certain age, but for their entire lives. So why adhere to strict rules? Why spend hours crafting elaborate meals or quizzing your children on complex subjects during their free time? Why not allow for a little spontaneity—like reading an extra bedtime story or enjoying cake for breakfast? Moderation Motherhood encourages us to give ourselves permission to relax our standards and actually savor the experience of parenting.
Being a parent is undoubtedly challenging, but as Moderation Mothers, we strive to do our best. And frankly, that is more than enough.
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In summary, Moderation Motherhood is about finding balance in parenting amidst the pressures of societal expectations. It’s about recognizing that being a good parent doesn’t require perfection but rather the commitment to do your best, one day at a time.