Dear Emily,
I see you in those playful star-printed black-and-white trousers, layered with a purple dress, a red one, and a striped number. You proudly declare that you look fantastic! When I playfully ask, “If you were a dinosaur, what would you be?” you confidently respond, “A sparkly pink Pteranodon who loves art and cooking with Mom, and adores her little sister.” Your self-love and comfort in your own skin are infectious. As your mom, my hope is for you to carry these beautiful qualities into adulthood without losing them, despite the challenges life may throw your way.
1. Claim Your Space.
Just like you boldly grab every toy in sight, as an adult, don’t shy away from claiming your rightful place—whether it’s the armrest on a plane or your voice in a meeting. Remember, you have just as much right to space and respect as anyone else.
2. Practice Self-Appreciation.
Recently, you created a Thanksgiving tree and included yourself in your list of things to be grateful for. You should absolutely recognize your worth. You are simply wonderful.
3. Prioritize Comfort.
This doesn’t mean to avoid hard work; rather, embrace the comforts you deserve. Stretch out on that king-sized bed, invest in cozy socks, and don’t suffer through uncomfortable clothing. Be as relaxed in your body as you are when you dance through the house.
4. Nourish Wisely.
Only indulge in food that delights your taste buds or benefits your body (or both!). If something doesn’t taste good, don’t eat it out of obligation. Enjoy every bite of pizza and salad alike, without guilt.
5. Be Kind, but Aware.
While kindness is essential, recognize that sometimes the less deserving seem to get ahead. Don’t let that deter you from being compassionate. Stay true to your values and ensure your kindness is genuine, not transactional.
6. Celebrate Your Body.
Appreciate your body as you would a beautiful tree—don’t fixate on flaws. Instead, admire your strong hands, your breathing chest, and the amazing ability of your body to heal.
7. Cherish True Friends.
There might be times when you feel unreciprocated in friendship. Focus on those who genuinely appreciate you; they’ll be the ones who matter in the long run.
8. Embrace Confidence.
Whether you’re singing about your monkey backpack or expressing your creativity, hold onto that self-assuredness. Don’t let anyone—especially peers—shake your sense of self.
9. Get Messy!
Dive into life with both hands—make art, cook, and don’t shy away from the chaos.
10. Focus on Positive Feedback.
While constructive criticism is valuable, don’t let the negatives overshadow the positives. Remember the compliments and good moments.
11. Love Your Sister.
She looks up to you. Nurture that bond; it’ll be one of the most important relationships in your life.
12. Stay Irreverent.
Keep your playful spirit alive. It’s this creative thinking that will fuel your imagination and keep life exciting.
13. Avoid the Stress Olympics.
Skip the competition of who’s the most stressed. Choose happiness whenever you can and let nothing dim your light.
14. Champion Empathy.
Remember that time with your friends when you were concerned for the little boy who wanted lunch? Keep that compassionate heart as you grow. It will serve you well.
15. Forgive Yourself.
Mistakes happen. Remember your song: “When you make a mistake, you just clean it up.” Carry that mantra with you.
16. Take the Initiative.
If someone wrongs you, don’t wait for their acknowledgment. Instead, seek out the helpers in your life and be one for others.
17. Know Your Worth.
You deserve love that is deep and unwavering, just like the love I have for you. Don’t settle for less.
18. Choose Partners Wisely.
Look for those who uplift you, rather than simply those who seem interesting. Seek someone who will support and cherish you.
19. Be the Protagonist.
Cast yourself as the hero in your story. Recognize your struggles but don’t vilify others.
20. Demand Female Representation.
Keep insisting on strong female leads in your life. You are just as capable and significant as anyone else.
21. Talk to Yourself with Kindness.
When you doubt your abilities, picture how you would encourage your younger self. That love should extend to you now.
22. Savor Life’s Joys.
Even in mundane moments, find joy. Remember that time you declared, “This is the best day of my life!” Let that spirit guide you.
23. Be Your Own Advocate.
You don’t have to wait for permission to pursue what you desire. Embrace your dreams and chase them, just like you would ride a rainbow unicorn.
Each piece of advice stems from the vibrant spirit of your younger self. Life can be complicated, but the essence of who you are is beautiful and strong. For more insights on parenting and female empowerment, check out articles on intracervicalinsemination.com and makeamom.com. You can also find excellent resources for pregnancy and home insemination at ASRM.
In summary, hold onto the joy, confidence, and creativity of your younger self as you navigate adulthood. Embrace every moment, advocate for your needs, and always remember how deserving you are of love and happiness.