Hey there, fellow mamas! It’s time to level up our friendship game. Yes, our little ones can sometimes feel like they’re holding us back, but that’s no excuse to let our friendships fade away. We can absolutely do better!
Last week, I shared some tips for childfree pals on how to maintain their friendships with us busy moms. Now, let’s focus on how we can keep that closeness with our childfree besties. Remember, we weren’t always knee-deep in diaper duty and toddler tantrums. There was a time when we were carefree and fun! Let’s honor that past and keep our friendships strong.
Here are five fun and effective ways for us moms to stay connected with our childfree friends:
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Be Selective with Baby Photos
Sure, your little nugget is adorable, but your friend doesn’t need a million updates. She’s happy for you—really! Just keep it to the big milestones like walking or talking. And please, for the love of all things sacred, don’t send potty pics. No one needs to see that! Instead, ask her for pics of her pets. Show some love for her fur babies! -
Say “Yes” to Outings
I know it can be a hassle to arrange a night out—finding a babysitter and getting dressed can feel like a monumental task. But trust me, when your bestie suggests hitting that trendy new spot, just say “yes” if you can swing it. A little break from the chaos can do wonders for your sanity. You might even enjoy a night of good food and laughter! -
Don’t Let the Kids Ruin Your Plans
Life with kids is unpredictable, and yes, things will come up. However, try not to flake on your friend just because your little one had a tantrum or you’re feeling worn out. If you need to cancel, just be honest and do it early. Just don’t turn into that friend who bails for no good reason. Be a good pal! -
Make Time for Phone Chats
When in-person hangouts are tough, pick up the phone! Texting is great, but a real conversation can make a difference. Set aside 30 minutes every now and then for a chat without the chaos of kids screaming for snacks. It’s a nice way to stay connected and share what’s going on in your lives. -
Show Empathy
We all remember a time before kids when life was less hectic. It’s important to be understanding of each other’s circumstances. Friendships require effort, so make it a point to schedule regular catch-ups, whether it’s over the phone or via video chat. Use technology to bridge that gap—wine over Skype, anyone?
Let’s not forget that being a mom doesn’t mean we can neglect our friendships. Your true bestie will understand your struggles, but don’t take advantage of that. Keep nurturing those bonds; you never know when you might need your friend to help make sense of life’s craziness.
For more insights on navigating friendships and the journey toward motherhood, check out our other posts here. And for those considering home insemination, you can find expert advice at Make a Mom, and for the latest in fertility research, visit Science Daily.
Summary:
Maintaining friendships with childfree friends as a mom is totally doable! By being selective with baby updates, saying yes to outings, keeping plans intact, making time for calls, and showing empathy, we can nurture these vital connections. Remember, friendships take work, but they’re worth it.