Ah, the newborn phase. Veteran moms often reminisce about it with a sense of nostalgia, leaving new mothers feeling a mix of emotions—especially frustration. Let’s be real: having your first child can be incredibly challenging. While it might seem idyllic in hindsight, when you’re exhausted, unkempt, and managing the emotional rollercoaster of postpartum life, it’s tough to imagine going through this for at least eighteen more years. Trust me, I’ve been there. So, if you’re open to it, here’s a list of insights I wish someone had shared with me when I was navigating the newborn chaos:
This is the Toughest Part.
For the first time, you’re prioritizing another person’s needs above your own—constantly. The weight of being responsible for a tiny human can be daunting. It’s a journey that requires you to confront your own selfish tendencies. This phase can feel relentless, especially during those sleepless nights when you’re knee-deep in baby spit-up and just want to close your eyes. Remember, you don’t resent your baby; you’re simply learning how to be a mom. Kudos for sticking it out!
Nobody Cares About Your Boobs (or Your Bottle).
Don’t let social media fool you—no one cares if you breastfeed in public. If someone dares to comment, unleash your inner warrior: remind them you have every right to nurse your baby. On the flip side, if you choose to bottle-feed, that’s perfectly fine too. Anyone judging you is simply not worth your time. This is a great way to filter out who deserves to be in your mom circle.
Cluster Feeding Will Eventually End.
When feeding on demand, be prepared for marathon sessions where your little one may want to feast for hours. You might find yourself going days without a shower, but take heart—this phase is temporary.
Always Pack Extra Clothes (or Three).
Trust me, you never know when you’ll need them.
You Will Encounter Bodily Fluids—and That’s Okay.
At some point, every mom catches a surprise dose of her baby’s vomit in her hands. You’ll be covered in poop, pee, and who knows what else, but soon enough, you’ll find that these moments are just part of the job. Your partner? They’ll get used to it, too.
Prepare for Unsolicited Advice.
Your relatives and friends will have their opinions on how you should care for your baby. Unless they’ve gone through the same experience, their opinions don’t hold much weight. If it’s your partner providing input, they better tread carefully.
Your Baby is Portable.
Seriously, find a way to wear your baby and get on with life. My partner and I took our one-month-old to a local oyster bar in a Moby wrap, and it was totally fine. When baby fusses, just do what you need to do—like breastfeeding.
You Don’t Need All That Stuff.
A few diapers, a couple of outfits, and a pacifier are usually all you need. If you’re formula feeding, sure, you’ll need a bit more, but leave the excessive gadgets at home.
Trust Your Instincts.
If something feels off, it probably is. Colic isn’t a real diagnosis; if your baby is crying excessively, there’s likely an underlying issue. My little one had terrible acid reflux, and once we addressed it, everything changed. Trust your gut.
Accept Help.
It might feel strange to have people offer you assistance, but say yes! Whether it’s food or cleaning, accept it graciously. You owe no one anything in return.
It’s Your Baby—You Can Say No.
You and your partner have the final say on who gets to hold your baby. Don’t hesitate to reclaim your child whenever you feel it’s necessary. It’s your baby, your rules.
Savor Every Moment.
Take this time to relax in bed, binge-watch your favorite shows, and cuddle your newborn. This phase is fleeting. By the time you have baby number three, you’ll find yourself doing very little because you can afford to. Take the time to breathe in that sweet baby scent and let the rest of the world wait (yes, that includes your cleaning schedule).
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In summary
The newborn stage is a whirlwind of emotions, challenges, and unforgettable moments. Embrace it all, trust your instincts, and remember to take care of yourself as you navigate this new adventure.
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