By: Lisa Randall
Updated: September 2, 2015
Originally Published: September 2, 2015
My son doesn’t realize he’s black. Sure, he knows he has darker skin than mine, and that his dad is white, but he hasn’t yet grasped the societal implications tied to the color of his skin. Concepts like prejudice, the legacy of slavery, Jim Crow laws, and pivotal moments in history such as the Emancipation Proclamation and the Civil Rights Movement are all foreign to him. He hasn’t heard about the events in places like Ferguson, McKinney, or Cleveland, nor does he understand why the phrase “black lives matter” is so crucial. To him, skin color is just a part of who people are, not a reason for different treatment.
Although my son is blissfully unaware of the painful history that has impacted the African American community, that knowledge will come. It won’t be long before he notices the differences between himself and his parents and learns that he is indeed black. By the time he enters elementary school, he’ll be introduced to Black History Month and the realities of America’s past. He’ll discover that our family’s diverse skin tones symbolize freedom and progress.
As he learns about the struggles of the past, he will also uncover stories of resilience and triumph, showing how ordinary individuals have led extraordinary lives. He’ll hear about the courage of Harriet Tubman, the determination of Rosa Parks, the inspirational leadership of Martin Luther King Jr., and the pioneering spirit of Jackie Robinson. He’ll see how laws were changed, ground was gained, and freedoms were secured. He will realize that while our nation has made significant strides, there is still much work to be done in the quest for racial equality and unity.
Right now, my son might not recognize his black identity, but a day will come when he does. For now, he enjoys using a rainbow of crayons to color the skin tones of his loved ones, embodying the belief that love and trust are not limited to skin color. Even at just four years old, he understands that these values are the foundation of relationships and the path to healing and togetherness. Love and trust can quell the flames of hatred and fear, forging connections where there have been division and bigotry. Love can achieve that.
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In summary, while my son is currently unaware of the complexities surrounding his identity, he will soon learn the history and significance of being black in America. For now, he embraces love and trust, which will serve him well as he grows.